I miss her...

[Depression = 72% of members]

I thought i would never say this again, but i've hit a new low. Last couple of days i'm starting to forget the bad memories and i'm only thinking about the good memories we've had. This is all because a coworker told me that she looked like she was missing me. I noticed that she was painting me white again as well. I want to swear and cry at the same time now. I already have someone else in my life, but it's not the same as with my ex. I miss the bond we had together, the closeness and i damn well know that it's projection and something that isn't real, but man oh man, do i miss it... .

Just when i thought i was detaching... .Please talk me out of this nonsense... .

[Bak86]

I thought i would never say this again, but i've hit a new low. Last couple of days i'm starting to forget the bad memories and i'm only thinking about the good memories we've had. This is all because a coworker told me that she looked like she was missing me. I noticed that she was painting me white again as well. I want to swear and cry at the same time now. I already have someone else in my life, but it's not the same as with my ex. I miss the bond we had together, the closeness and i damn well know that it's projection and something that isn't real, but man oh man, do i miss it... .

Just when i thought i was detaching... .Please talk me out of this nonsense... .

[FoolishMan]

I thought i would never say this again, but i've hit a new low. Last couple of days i'm starting to forget the bad memories and i'm only thinking about the good memories we've had. This is all because a coworker told me that she looked like she was missing me. I noticed that she was painting me white again as well. I want to swear and cry at the same time now. I already have someone else in my life, but it's not the same as with my ex. I miss the bond we had together, the closeness and i damn well know that it's projection and something that isn't real, but man oh man, do i miss it... .

Just when i thought i was detaching... .Please talk me out of this nonsense... .

She did this to you. You were detaching. She obviously noticed it. Now she's set it up again so she can reject and hurt you. Been there and felt the pain. It must be hard on you to see her at work and I respect your strength in keeping working there. I'd have probably bailed. NC has helped me so much.

I wish I had better advice for you. All I can say is that no matter how much you miss her she's not there anymore. Try to consider her dead. I see my ex sometimes but I just see her as a twisted little moron. Not the girl I used to love. I wanted so much for her to be the person she pretended she was but she just isn't and no amount of wishing, ruminating or fantasising can change that fact.

[Bak86]

I thought i would never say this again, but i've hit a new low. Last couple of days i'm starting to forget the bad memories and i'm only thinking about the good memories we've had. This is all because a coworker told me that she looked like she was missing me. I noticed that she was painting me white again as well. I want to swear and cry at the same time now. I already have someone else in my life, but it's not the same as with my ex. I miss the bond we had together, the closeness and i damn well know that it's projection and something that isn't real, but man oh man, do i miss it... .

Just when i thought i was detaching... .Please talk me out of this nonsense... .

She did this to you. You were detaching. She obviously noticed it. Now she's set it up again so she can reject and hurt you. Been there and felt the pain. It must be hard on you to see her at work and I respect your strength in keeping working there. I'd have probably bailed. NC has helped me so much.

I wish I had better advice for you. All I can say is that no matter how much you miss her she's not there anymore. Try to consider her dead. I see my ex sometimes but I just see her as a twisted little moron. Not the girl I used to love. I wanted so much for her to be the person she pretended she was but she just isn't and no amount of wishing, ruminating or fantasising can change that fact.

Yeah she probably noticed i stopped caring... .Why do they do this... .

[Raybo48]

I thought i would never say this again, but i've hit a new low. Last couple of days i'm starting to forget the bad memories and i'm only thinking about the good memories we've had. This is all because a coworker told me that she looked like she was missing me. I noticed that she was painting me white again as well. I want to swear and cry at the same time now. I already have someone else in my life, but it's not the same as with my ex. I miss the bond we had together, the closeness and i damn well know that it's projection and something that isn't real, but man oh man, do i miss it... .

Just when i thought i was detaching... .Please talk me out of this nonsense... .

She did this to you. You were detaching. She obviously noticed it. Now she's set it up again so she can reject and hurt you. Been there and felt the pain. It must be hard on you to see her at work and I respect your strength in keeping working there. I'd have probably bailed. NC has helped me so much.

I wish I had better advice for you. All I can say is that no matter how much you miss her she's not there anymore. Try to consider her dead. I see my ex sometimes but I just see her as a twisted little moron. Not the girl I used to love. I wanted so much for her to be the person she pretended she was but she just isn't and no amount of wishing, ruminating or fantasising can change that fact.

Yeah she probably noticed i stopped caring... .Why do they do this... .

It's all over these threads... .  Once they sense you are moving on with your life or have moved on then they feel abandoned and want you back. It's perfectly ok for them to leave us, no abandonment fears then... .  It's all about the chase and their needs, nothing more!   Don't ever look back in that rear view mirror!

[Bak86]

I thought i would never say this again, but i've hit a new low. Last couple of days i'm starting to forget the bad memories and i'm only thinking about the good memories we've had. This is all because a coworker told me that she looked like she was missing me. I noticed that she was painting me white again as well. I want to swear and cry at the same time now. I already have someone else in my life, but it's not the same as with my ex. I miss the bond we had together, the closeness and i damn well know that it's projection and something that isn't real, but man oh man, do i miss it... .

Just when i thought i was detaching... .Please talk me out of this nonsense... .

She did this to you. You were detaching. She obviously noticed it. Now she's set it up again so she can reject and hurt you. Been there and felt the pain. It must be hard on you to see her at work and I respect your strength in keeping working there. I'd have probably bailed. NC has helped me so much.

I wish I had better advice for you. All I can say is that no matter how much you miss her she's not there anymore. Try to consider her dead. I see my ex sometimes but I just see her as a twisted little moron. Not the girl I used to love. I wanted so much for her to be the person she pretended she was but she just isn't and no amount of wishing, ruminating or fantasising can change that fact.

Yeah she probably noticed i stopped caring... .Why do they do this... .

It's all over these threads... .  Once they sense you are moving on with your life or have moved on then they feel abandoned and want you back. It's perfectly ok for them to leave us, no abandonment fears then... .  It's all about the chase and their needs, nothing more!   :)on't ever look back in that rear view mirror!

Yeah... .But why doesn't she reach out though... .I mean, she does it in subtle ways, but no texts, no calls, no driveby's etc.

[Raybo48]

I think they reach out plenty when they have a lack of supply and they are in the mood to try and reconnect to recycle fulfilling their needs only.  

After every drop on my head I used to say "well she'll never contact me again".  I said that to myself because each disconnect from her was more ugly than the previous one, more definite.  If I learned one thing nothing is definite with them, nothing is etched in stone.  They are different day to day, week to week.  I know for a fact based on past behavior so I'll hear from my ex again no matter how she feels about me at the moment and no matter how many guys she burns through.  

The goal is to be whole enough to completely ignore her when she does so she moves on down the road to someone else.   Don't let her get to you subtle or not!  They are master manipulator's and it's what they have been doing nearly all of their lives to get what they want.