It's not hard to predict their future

[clydegriffith]

So, going back down memory lane, when the uBPDx and i b/u and she was chasing her friend's husband i told her on more than one ocassion that she was going to spend the rest of her life chasing guys and that my daughter would have a different "daddy" every year or so. Let's take a look at that statement two years later: 5 boyfriends, god knows how many fk buddys,1 engagement and one more baby daddy. Seems like i was write on the money with that one.

Also, i told her getting engaged to someone she was dating for two months and planning on moving 800 miles away would end in complete disaster i was right again because a couple of months after that she got caught cheating and angry over being dumped because she was cheating, put out embarassing naked pictures of the guy online. Sounds like things ended in disaster there so one more for the good guys.

Her most recent adventure is living with the latest baby daddy (alleged) and having him work 12 hour days and take care of a few kids that aren't his and one that may not be while she bartends till 1am. I dont know how but i have a hunch that will not end pretty either.

When does the cycle end?

I wish i can just escape and be done with all this.

Sorry for another rant. It's been a frustrating day to say the least.

[Raybo48]

None of that surprises me. Their lives are chaotic and drama laden and they seem to feed off of that.  My BPDxgf told me she had been engaged 5 times and married once and at the time she just turned 40.  Unfortunately once you understand the disorder it's very easy to predict future behavior because their past behavior is a perfect blue print.   The movie 'Groundhog day' should be in every BPD library.

[lovethebeach]

So sad, but so true.

The cycle continues until they "hit bottom" and devote themselves entirely to therapy and the process... .even then, it's still a mental illness.

My ex was 22. I tried to warn him of the train coming ... yet it seems he refuses to get off the tracks.

Since our breakup, he's back to his old ways ... .nothing but pain up-a-head for him. It's hard to watch, but our lives are no longer intertwined... .so now, all I can do is let go and hope he learns how to swim for himself.

[Infern0]

I pretty much predicted the future exactly for my ex. Towards the end I sat down with her and layed it all out. Of course she hated that and told me how wrong I was but I was pretty much spot on with everything.

[Deeno02]

I would have to go on record as saying I really dont care what she does or what happens. She made a choice to ruin a loving, caring man who would have taken care of her and her 5 kids, whom he loved deeply. Choices have consequences. I choose to not dwell on this horrible persons life any longer. As for me, Im on here for my health, not hers. It pains me to this day how I was put to pasture, but as I said, her choice, nothing I can or will do about it.

[BuildingFromScratch]

I told my ex, "You always lose, because the truth always wins" and told her to get therapy. She will definitely keep ruining her and other peoples lives until she admits that she is the problem and that she need therapy, which honestly, probably won't happen.

[neverloveagain]

it's very easy to predict future behavior because their past behavior is a perfect blue print

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We were no different to what you might of not noticed when you first got together.