feeling heartbroken

[feeling crazy]

Hi

Everything I have read about BPD is so true and hits home.

Its so depressing living the push pull cycle and feeling things slowly

Fall apart - just wondering what went wrong because the other day was

So fantastic and felt so close. Then next time its a huge fight and everything

Falls apart and its the constant relationship sabotage that is hard to live with.

The constant contradiction and feeling like your going crazy. Slowly getting worse

But getting told your the love of their life - but not being treated that way. Constant

Abuse and hostility - no trust and everything is my fault. I can never say anything right or

Show my feelings enough or show I care enough.

Why do they put you through so much pain and torture when they claim to love you?

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[Rapt Reader]

Hello, feeling crazy & 

Your questions are valid and poignant, and everyone on the Staying Board can commiserate with you, and know exactly what you are feeling... .You are in the right place to find your answers 

You are right; the ups and downs, the push and pull, the love and anger, can all confuse us and drive us nuts... .I'd like to invite you to read every link to the right-hand side of this page, and also to check out this link: When a partner, spouse or girlfriend has Borderline Personality Disorder, in order to get a better handle on just why your Significant Other is acting the ways you describe. There are things we can do to learn how to communicate in a way that can stop pushing every one of our loved one's buttons, and a lot of the time things can get better... .

Are you two married? How long have you been together? Do you have any children? Please stay around, tell us more of your story, and ask your questions. We want to help, feeling crazy