The stopwatch

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She was suspicious every day and one way that she tried to track me was with the clock.  On many occasions she would time how long it took me to do something, such as driving home from work, and then analyze my speed.  She wanted me to tell her when I was leaving and I usually did.  One day I texted that I was leaving the gym to head home.  I stopped at an ATM on the way.  It could not have taken more than 2 minutes, but she noticed!  When I walked in the door she looked at the clock and said "Where did you stop on the way home?" 

On another occasion I spoke to her while on a train to the airport.  Around the time I arrived at the airport she thought of an urgent question and called and texted many times asking me to call back while I rushed through the airport.  I texted that I would call after getting through security.  I reached the gate as the flight was boarding and called her back.  By then she was extremely angry and crying.  She said "I timed how long it took you to get from the train to the gate and it doesn't add up.  I know you lied about taking the train.  And if you lied about that, it means that you also lied about loving me." 

Just another day.  Like so many of the days.  It is over now and I don't miss it at all.

[Mercury2Pluto]

She was suspicious every day and one way that she tried to track me was with the clock.  On many occasions she would time how long it took me to do something, such as driving home from work, and then analyze my speed.  She wanted me to tell her when I was leaving and I usually did.  One day I texted that I was leaving the gym to head home.  I stopped at an ATM on the way.  It could not have taken more than 2 minutes, but she noticed!  When I walked in the door she looked at the clock and said "Where did you stop on the way home?" 

On another occasion I spoke to her while on a train to the airport.  Around the time I arrived at the airport she thought of an urgent question and called and texted many times asking me to call back while I rushed through the airport.  I texted that I would call after getting through security.  I reached the gate as the flight was boarding and called her back.  By then she was extremely angry and crying.  She said "I timed how long it took you to get from the train to the gate and it doesn't add up.  I know you lied about taking the train.  And if you lied about that, it means that you also lied about loving me." 

Just another day.  Like so many of the days.  It is over now and I don't miss it at all.

[Spartacus]

Mercury2Pluto, I experienced the exact same thing and as my uBPDw became increasingly controlling about my time, to the minute, she became less exact about her own. If I was one minute late home or in collecting her from the station it would provoke a rage and threats of divorce whilst her being over an hour late was nothing. The hypocrisy, rage and control was suffocating and demeaning. And the one time I did not do as she ordered she called the police on me. Crazy-making.

I hope you are managing NC ok. It is the only way to clear the head of all the spin and enchantment.