oddest behaviour ever from BPD ex, any qualified explanation ?

[borderdude]

I still monitor my ex on the net, and it has a prevantive effect, because of her strange behaviour , it previews what to come if I am sucked in.


Explain this, please?... she got two facebook accounts with different statuses, one where she is single, and one where she is engaged.

She just changed one letter in her name, almost same photo, same place, same e erything else ... .etc


It is obvious to the extreme , I just wonder is there any medical explanation to this behaviour ?

[Splitblack4good]

I still monitor my ex on the net, and it has a prevantive effect, because of her strange behaviour , it previews what to come if I am sucked in.


Explain this, please?... she got two facebook accounts with different statuses, one where she is single, and one where she is engaged.

She just changed one letter in her name, almost same photo, same place, same e erything else ... .etc


It is obvious to the extreme , I just wonder is there any medical explanation to this behaviour ?

Yer BPD = crazy making = strange behaviour !

[peiper]

Is the one with the miss spelled name the one that has her engaged ?~

[borderdude]

Is the one with the miss spelled name the one that has her engaged ?~

Yes sir, the engaGed account is new, and one letter is substituted, the change is almost rediculus.

She need to view herself as single, while she is still trying to mantain her engagement fantacy... .but it is done like she was at the 6yo stage.

She is probably looking for new supply... .but how intelligent is she really ?

[borderdude]

I tend to forgot they live in a fantacy world, she does not have to be in a real rs, a fantasy rs would do just fine. She never initiated contact with me, because it was not needed, she just had me internally.

[myself]

So much of the way this disorder plays out is an act, a way for the person to feel like they exist/ are important/ have something worthwhile going on. While constantly on the run from themselves and who they've hurt. It's their delusion we get convinced is real. At some point, you'll find that you've seen enough and are strong enough to not get drawn back in. I've struggled with it too, wondering where she went, had she really changed/was better since not being with me, etc. Seeing what I saw when I did look helped me take some important steps toward a deeper understanding and letting go.

[MrConfusedWithItAll]

My ex kept two accounts on two different dating sites.  While in a rs with someone from site A she would continue dating men from site B and rotate as supply changed.

[borderdude]

So much of the way this disorder plays out is an act, a way for the person to feel like they exist/ are important/ have something worthwhile going on. While constantly on the run from themselves and who they've hurt. It's their delusion we get convinced is real. At some point, you'll find that you've seen enough and are strong enough to not get drawn back in. I've struggled with it too, wondering where she went, had she really changed/was better since not being with me, etc. Seeing what I saw when I did look helped me take some important steps toward a deeper understanding and letting go.

I do feel for her still, but from a caretaker position, like if your child ran away and you would check up how she is doing in life, i do realize she will never be a rs material. I actually ended my rs with her, because i saw the red lights coming ... .she was chocked , crying, and started this rs wery close after , too premature with a guy way to young for her, ... .