Really Lost

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

So I've been absent from here for awhile not to say issues haven't gone on but they've gotten less and less recent... .Still ups and downs, but anyway.

A few days ago exBPD had a major spiral with her family that she lives with she said it was over bills they say it was over my replacement and her being in that lavish phase (they're enablers to an extent) and spending way to much time on that... .Granted she didn't seem happy from the few interactions we'd had during our off and on communication.


But anyway somehow she lost it threatened them to the point that they felt comfortable having the police escort her off the property with no car, etc. so she's in a massive amount of distress and has been off and on contacting me to walk her through steps on how to proceed she says her and the bf aren't on good terms, parents say otherwise that she's in love and will do anything (they've been known to lie to get what they need so I'm really between a rock and a hard place). I gave her 4figures not but 12 weeks ago and thats gone... .

Upon the first phone call of all this I was ready to go give her another car, blank check but I've since calmed myself on that and have said if you want to take the positive way I'll be here and you have my support, but if you want to do other things I won't be here... .But then silent for a little while but then when another crisis from the situation arises I get a text "I'm done with life" and I just don't know what to do with that other than get in contact, I don't need that on my conscious if she followed through.

Basically life is spiraling, probably still somewhat-infatuated with an extremely inferior replacement... .Just don't know what to do. I'll take any help I can get.

[DangIthurts]

So I've been absent from here for awhile not to say issues haven't gone on but they've gotten less and less recent... .Still ups and downs, but anyway.

A few days ago exBPD had a major spiral with her family that she lives with she said it was over bills they say it was over my replacement and her being in that lavish phase (they're enablers to an extent) and spending way to much time on that... .Granted she didn't seem happy from the few interactions we'd had during our off and on communication.


But anyway somehow she lost it threatened them to the point that they felt comfortable having the police escort her off the property with no car, etc. so she's in a massive amount of distress and has been off and on contacting me to walk her through steps on how to proceed she says her and the bf aren't on good terms, parents say otherwise that she's in love and will do anything (they've been known to lie to get what they need so I'm really between a rock and a hard place). I gave her 4figures not but 12 weeks ago and thats gone... .

Upon the first phone call of all this I was ready to go give her another car, blank check but I've since calmed myself on that and have said if you want to take the positive way I'll be here and you have my support, but if you want to do other things I won't be here... .But then silent for a little while but then when another crisis from the situation arises I get a text "I'm done with life" and I just don't know what to do with that other than get in contact, I don't need that on my conscious if she followed through.

Basically life is spiraling, probably still somewhat-infatuated with an extremely inferior replacement... .Just don't know what to do. I'll take any help I can get.

[jhkbuzz]

So I've been absent from here for awhile not to say issues haven't gone on but they've gotten less and less recent... .Still ups and downs, but anyway.

A few days ago exBPD had a major spiral with her family that she lives with she said it was over bills they say it was over my replacement and her being in that lavish phase (they're enablers to an extent) and spending way to much time on that... .Granted she didn't seem happy from the few interactions we'd had during our off and on communication.


But anyway somehow she lost it threatened them to the point that they felt comfortable having the police escort her off the property with no car, etc. so she's in a massive amount of distress and has been off and on contacting me to walk her through steps on how to proceed she says her and the bf aren't on good terms, parents say otherwise that she's in love and will do anything (they've been known to lie to get what they need so I'm really between a rock and a hard place). I gave her 4figures not but 12 weeks ago and thats gone... .

Upon the first phone call of all this I was ready to go give her another car, blank check but I've since calmed myself on that and have said if you want to take the positive way I'll be here and you have my support, but if you want to do other things I won't be here... .But then silent for a little while but then when another crisis from the situation arises I get a text "I'm done with life" and I just don't know what to do with that other than get in contact, I don't need that on my conscious if she followed through.

Basically life is spiraling, probably still somewhat-infatuated with an extremely inferior replacement... .Just don't know what to do. I'll take any help I can get.

Sounds like you are still in the FOG... .I'm so sorry, I know how difficult it is.  Truth is, you cannot save her from the chaos she creates - she must do that herself.  Stop believing the lie that you can "save" her.  She will either save herself or destroy herself - with or without you.

And, if I received a text that sounded suicidal, I would dial 911 - period.