Did your exBPD contact you on New Years Eve?

[RedDove]

I posted a month ago that my ex BPDbf found out my Father was hospitalized and began contacting me via text. Our encounter was 4 years and I ended it back in June when I unraveled his lies and cheating with OW.

When he contacted me in November, he asked to meet for drinks. I posted here and was advised not to, so I decided I would not. I texted that my priority was my Dad right now. He never followed up to actually schedule drinks... .surprise, surprise, surprise! Lol!

Fast Forward to Chrustmas Day and he texted Merry Christmas. Me being the kind person I am simply texted "Merry Christmas". He texted a few other times between Christmas and New Years and I didn't respond.

On New Years Eve, I went to a dinner/party at a local hotel with a friend. At 8:00pm he texted "Happy New Year!" Again, I simply texted "Happy New Year". Then the texts escalated. He asked how I was celebrating NYE. I responded, "I'm at a dinner party at a hotel and enjoying my NYE!" He texted again "Are you alone?" I texted back, "Nope, enjoying party with great company!" He then text bombed with... ."Wish I was there! I love you, totally, always have, always will! I'm at my sisters in (blank)... .no worries, will have my sisters to kiss at midnight!" I wished him a good evening and a Happy New Year.

The next morning, New Years Day I woke up to a text from 7:30am... ."Good Morning... .Happy 2015 beautiful!" I simply texted "Happy 2015!" I haven't heard from him since, so I'm hoping he was drunk, feeling alone (so sad, too bad!) and he got the message that I'm indifferent to him and his charms! I enjoyed my night with my best friend and it felt good that I didn't let him ruin my NYE!

Just wondering if New Years Eve prompted other ex BPD's to make contact as well?

[paperlung]

No, but she did Christmas morning. She wished me a Merry Christmas and asked what I got (I was with my family).

She told me she was feeling kind of depressed. She went on to mention something later that day about a big birthday cake her dad had gotten her for her birthday and if I was around when she got it. I told her I was, and then asked why? She said she was just thinking about the wish she made. I asked her what the wish was.

And she said, "Haha I totally don't wanna give you the wrong idea with this but it was 'I hope paperlung and I stay together for a long time or forever' or something. The thought kind of sprung out of nowhere cause I said I hope 2015 is better for me to my friend. Then I thought of other things I had hoped for in the past :/ Anyway. Awkward."

I wished her a Happy New Year around 12:30 AM or so. She was at home all night doing nothing. She wished me one back.

[skittles22]

Nope. She didn't contact me on Christmas or my birthday, either. Completely gone out of my life... .on one hand it sucks to have someone go, but with this kind of person it's for the best, I guess.

[Infern0]

Yes. It was horrible.

[Dutched]

Let me tell you. Now a few yrs. ago, exw left a week before Christmas the house with D.

My Son and I discussed about the upcoming Christmas, in this situation. Setting a tree, having a dinner ‘as we used to have’. Well we decided to invite exw and D for the dinner… the last we would ever have as a family…

We prepared the best we could. They came and were very surprised about our skills (of which they knew we had them). They acted cold, formal and total withdrawn. For us a total disillusion for my son and me that lasted ca. 1.5 hours.

At Midnight on NYE, my son received app’s from his sister and mother. I didn’t, waited an hour and sent them my best wishes. Nothing back.

Nothing back from my D… nothing back from a wife I loved 30+ yrs…

Months later, at my birthday and having the house full of visitors, exw phoned. My son answered it, exw had a ‘need to know’ of who was present…

D wasn’t present on that 1st birthday after the split, nor congratulated me… 

Don't expect when pwBPD are in 'protected child mode'. Although I knew, I didn't realized that! Although I knew it still hurts, despite to depersonalize their actions.