I haven't been on here for a long time, i have been trying to deal with my situation the best that i can.
I have not had the major flareups that i experienced in the past, i just don't take the bait as easy as i used to.
I also now try to leave the situation when it starts up, i recognize that the majority of my gf freak outs have little to do with what i did but more of what someone else did to her earlier in the day. I can actually see it happen, i try to let her talk it out and soon enough it comes out that this person did that to her, then i see where it all started. It doesn't make it easier to deal with, i can just rationalize it better.
Just on Christmas eve, we were at a bar with our friends (been doing this for 8yrs with her), one of the waitresses walked behind me and put her hand on my back as she was passing a drink to someone at the table. Innocent enough right? wrong. When we got back to her place she exploded, accusing me of flirting with the waitress, that i looked right at her when it happened to supposedly see if she was watching - I stood my ground, i acknowleged she touched my back, but that is all i agreed to, i told her i was not flirting and told her nothing is going on and that if she continued to accuse me of misdoings that i was leaving, i told her i am not staying to hear such b/s and that i would talk to her tomorrow. I have left on other occassions because of her freaking out, this type of behaviour drives me nutso, i told her that it appears she does not trust me and then we got into her past and all the guys that actually screwed her over. I told her that i am not the same as her past boyfriends and she should know that by now and that i am not going to sit and beg for her forgiveness for something i did not do. She then said he would break the waitresses arm if she ever saw her do that again, flipped her anger from me to her. I don't stand for her craziness much anymore, its better in the long run for everyone.
Hope the new year brings me and everyone here more patience and wisdome !
