diagnosed vs undiagnosed

[H Hi]

Hi

I was just wondering if it's easier to deal with someone who has been diagnosed with BPD, as there must be a greater degree of self awareness of themselves and behaviours?

I'd be interested in people's views, experiences.

[maxen]

hi, H Hi!

there's a range of combinations here. a person may be uBPD, but be aware of certain behavior patterns, not knowing that they amount to BPD, and realize that they have something to work on. or, a person may receive a diagnosis, become infuriated that someone would say such a thing, and reject any such possibility (therapists will often not tell their patients that they have BPD, exactly because of this). there are other combinations, but i think these make the point: it's not the diagnosis, it's the desire on the part of a person to want to change behaviors, and the ability to change behaviors (its a spectrum disorder and some cases will be irremediable). my wife, e.g., is undiagnosed (or was last i knew), is aware of some of her patterns, and is not motivated to change them (so, another combination on top of the ones i described above).

[clydegriffith]

I would think the person that's diagnosed would be easier to deal with because they are in acceptance of the condition and have the resources on what it is and can make an effort to better themselves. An undiagnosed person will be in the denial in continue to create chaos wherever they go.

[Aussie JJ]

My sons mother was diagnosed.  it made her go further into denial.  She got told she had BPD and didn't go back to therapy... .

She is no longer no ever again will be mine.  She made her bed with someone else.  She is his problem. 


AJJ.