My anxiety about his possible reaction to a diagnosis is getting the better out of me.
I know he has spoken about his tumultuous r/s with women and has bundled me in with all the 2 yrs r/s he had in the past... .that threw me over the edge... .so I stopped asking about the particulars.
I am also anxious of his reaction once he is diagnosed
I can understand how that may give you anxiety.
He may react in a negative way. That mainly has to do with a pwBPD having a hard time accepting their flaws. Honestly, many people have problems accepting that there is something wrong with them. Being supportive and using communication tools and validation will help with an adverse reaction to a diagnosis.
My pwBPD has a hard time with "labels," which is understandable. He told me that he thinks he has a PD. He seemed upset and I explained a PD is just a name for a grouping of maladaptive behavior.
Also, I tend to not ask my pwBPD about his therapy. If he wants to tell me about something in particular, I just listen and do not say anything. I found it is best to not involve myself in his therapy.
Do you have anxiety about the possibility that your SO may not be diagnosed?