My Ex and I have been broken up over 2 years now but unfortunately I haven't been able to be NC with him because he continued to come to the Shelter/adoption events. He brought someone else there awhile back, which I thought was pretty disrespectful because it was a place I introduced him to... .but I digress. Between the emotional and continuing to show what kind of person he is I have no respect for him, he is just gross.
However, now he is dating a mutual friend/acquaintance and now they are coming together the adoption events we all attend. (just some them on the list, luckily I'm not going this week) We've been apart for over 2 years now and I was doing really well, but having someone I know with him has given me a bump in my healing. I also might have to see them together if they go on the same day as me, however I will not stop going to the shelter that I've been involved in for years and was there before either one of them. The thing that really pisses me off is I actually talked to this woman about my issues with him and how my Ex acted and she agreed with me. She even told me, I should change my # etc, because she had dated a guy like that. Seriously, so two faced... .I can't even stand it. She was telling me she still talks to her Ex, so not sure if she is even over him, however she doesn't want him to go to the Adoption events... .hypocrite! I told her how I felt about him going and she was like "I understand." I only found out because someone who works at the Shelter who I've known for awhile told me and I had to ask the woman myself. Supposedly, she felt bad and wanted to tell me blah blah.
I'm wondering if anyone had issues with their Ex dating a mutual friend etc? How did you handle it and did you feel like they were trying to stick it to you?
I'm not saying he doesn't like her, but man really he couldn't of found someone else to date other than someone I was cool with. He already knew her and they had the dog stuff in common, so easier to start something up I guess... .he doesn't have much game. Seems like something that most (sensible/respectful) people wouldn't do. When we first started dating he didn't have any hobbies or many friends, so the adoption events became a huge thing in our relationship, too much actually. Well, I can't wait till it blows up in her face or maybe it won't because their both into dysfunctional relationships. Seriously, even though my ego is a little bruised, I can almost laugh that she things she found a prize. Unless he's changed... this is what kinda of guy she is with has anger issues (punched a hole in the door), impatient, withdraws, major anxiety, recovering alcoholic, although did other hard drugs in past, sexual issues (which I don't judge but it adds up with the problem) always the victim(no matter how hard you have it, I have it harder) and has a felony record (people can change, but not enough) Ah, that feels good!
I'm actually in a really good place right now, I had been trying to find a better job for awhile and a agency called me and found me a job with a great company in my area! I started a few days ago and I'm now more comfortable with the computer system I'm using and the other ins and out of the office. I'm looking forward to gaining more confidence and all the great things that come with that!
