As suddenly as my previous wife had died, an angel of light appeared

[The Jake]

When I met my wife, I was a widower. My 1st wife of 27 years died suddenly, leaving me with our 7 year old son. The next ten months after this devastation dragged on like an eternity in hell.

Then, as suddenly as my previous wife had died, an angel of light appeared. She was looking for a book in our library.

We were mesmerized by each other for the next two hours. Suddenly, I asked her to dinner. This beautiful goddess said yes. Over the course of the next few years (we married after only 3 months) we were still in heaven. Her beautiful body drove me wild and she was extremely wild in bed.

But, she would dive from her heights of bliss with me to sudden despair. What usually triggered these were another pretty woman. Whether she was on the beach, the store, or on TV, my wife would think I wanted that woman. This would cause her to live in the spare bedroom for days at a time. Although, she had her string bikini on, if another pretty girl had one on, she was no longer pretty (my wife had the face and body of a supermodel). I was puzzled by this for many years.

Anyway, her continuous black and white outlook on everything was driving me nuts. Finally, I told her she needed psychological help. This is when she really began to turn on me.

To make a long story short, during the course of our 11 years together, it was either excessively blissful, or extremely tormented. I was either living in heaven or in hell, never on earth.

Finally, after she was convinced I was a demon from hell, instead of the Knight in Shinning Armor (which she always called me), I came home from work one day and not only was she gone, but all the furniture, the curtains, pictures, dishes, clothes, and Christmas decorations! The next week I realized she had cleaned my savings accounts (almost $100k).

Naturally, I had to divorce her. She became a witch. In fact, I heard her attorney yelling at her the day of our divorce, stating she was being unreasonable in what she was trying to take from me.

It has been almost 2 years since she left.

I still am not over her.

I cannot forget the bliss I experienced with her when she was not going through an episode.

Lived with BPD wife for over 11 years, separated 1 year, now divorced 1 year.

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I cannot forget the bliss I experienced with her when she was not going through an episode.

Hi Jake 

That's a hard and all too familiar story.  A lot of us are here working through the lose... .and it is a loss... .we lost something dear.

How are the children doing?

[ShadowIntheNight]

Jake I'm so sorry for the loss of your first wife and even more sorry you landed this other woman. My uBDexgf and I were together almost 10 yrs. In retrospect, she was either totally insecure or totally full of herself, never in between. We were in a lesbian relationship and any female friend of mine was subject to me getting an earful about how I was cheating on her how I wanted to leave her for them or all I really wanted was to eff them. Then she would go on about how when my friends met her they would be jealous of how good looking she was.

Her exH of 10 yrs remarried after 5 yrs and my ex went on about how much better looking she was than his new wife. My ex divorced him! What did it matter. Fortunately mine didn't clean out a savings account, but I did allow her to let me accrue more debt than I was ever comfortable with. Fortunately in the 7 months she's been gone I've managed to get rid of that debt.

Still what they do to us emotionally is such a higher price than a dollar bill. Kind trusting people like you, me, and so many others on these boards don't deserve having met satan's minions in the flesh. It's really devastating.