Had it not been for an auto accident that laid me up for a couple months, I may not have learned that I was in an extremely unhealthy marriage to a woman with a PD mirroring that of Jodi Arias. I had been separated from my wife and was considering a 2nd recycle of her never ending bizarre behavior.
At the time, I had no clue what BPD was but had serious reservations that her behavior was far from healthy or 'normal'. So I get rear-ended and had a bad case of whiplash, tore some shoulder muscles and a slight concussion. Well, I'm bed and couch ridden and forced to make my remote control a temporary attachment. One day I'm channel surfing and come across the Arias trial and they are questioning a few shrinks about Jody and her psychological makeup and bingo
hits me.
It didn't take but a few days of expert trial analysis for me to realize my wife had nearly all the characteristics of this very sick woman (short of murder). Long story short, I began to research PD's and spent the next few months with a great T to help me realize the plight I was trying to get a grip on. As I became more aware of the nearly impossible, uphill battle facing me, I finally had the sense to face the ugly reality. She had lied and cheated so many times I just had enough. I will not bore you with the particulars, but suffice to say I had only one choice... .to save myself.
No more recycles. The marriage is over. Sad but true. No apologies from her for the excruciating pain she put me (and many others) thru. No remorse. NC for 10+ months and feeling pretty damn good. I will always have a place in my heart for her; kinda like that first crush in 3rd grade.
I do feel like I dodged a bullet and was spared, unlike Travis.
