PDF | Leaving a Partner with Borderline Personality Disorder

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Leaving a Partner with Borderline Personality Disorder

"In all of our relationships throughout life, we will meet a variety of individuals with many different personalities. Some are a joy to have in our life and some provide us with life-long love and security. Others we meet pose some risk to us and our future due to their personality and attitudes. Both in medicine and mental health - the key to health is the early identification and treatment of problems - before they reach the point that they are beyond treatment."

This article is for those partners of someone with BPD who want a strategy to exit the relationship. Written by Joe Carver, PhD, the article describes the three stages of leaving—The Detachment, Ending the Relationship, and Follow-up Protection—and how to plan and manage each stage while minimizing drama and destructive cycles of behavior.

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A lot of good advice on preparation (have a plan),  protecting yourself, de-escalating, and avoiding re-cycle.  How to control what you can control... .your behavior.

I gave this a "good" review not "excellent" because some of our situations particularly if children are involved are much more complicated than simply leaving a partner/spouse and some BPDx's will escalate the level of conflict no matter what you do. So IMO the article maybe does not go far enough to address more complicated or extreme situations.

Can the information in this article help? Absolutely! I hope members thinking of leaving or in the process of leaving read and implement the ideas presented here.

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