finally left girlfriend after almost 2 years...

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Hello everyone,

      around two years ago i met a girl at a bar and the first few months were great, she said she was falling in love with me, wanted to marry me one day, the whole 9 yards.  oddly tho during this time she would flirt with others in front of me, she even gave oral sex to a guy in a car when we went to the bar together, she blew up my phone the next day calling and texting 56x... .  for some reason i forgave her... . this type of acting out and then begging for forgiveness happened many times for months, including some of it being my own insecurities causing problems... .

she denies it of course but im sure she slept multiple times with a few of my friends, and the relationship began to devolve into me just giving her money but us not spending any time together. constantly i was questioning her contradicitons in words and actions, and lack of sex.  we never had sex but we would mess around.  she lies about literally everything and it wouldnt suprise me if her name was a lie... .  this was about the 5th time she came back a month ago, i begged her to come back, and i bought her a car, yes i know pathetic.  well enough was enough, i tried to calmly tell her i wasnt happy, that she should find a guy or gal, ( she is bi) that she is more into and that im not in love with her anymore.  i said i wanted my car back as im not interested in supporting a girl who doesnt even want to hang out or have a sexual relationship. i even offered her gas money to get rides to work the next week... .she completely flipped, went 140mph threatening to crash the car and kill us, and that if she couldnt keep the car she would make up a story that i tried to rape her... .i took the car back when she finally parked in front of my house and i went nuts... . i through all her out of my car, yelled at her, made her cry, and told her i do everything for you and all you do is sleep with my friends and talk bs about me behind my back.  keep in mind i was paying her rent, giving her clothes, saved her job and from jail, my unlce is a lawyer. she stole twice from two bars... .  i even bought her a car( i know pathetic, but her mom said she was about to lose her job, i suspect her mom is nuts too).  anyway, i finally put my foot down in a stern way and she falsely accused me of rape and abuse.  now since there is no evidence of this, she had a friend spread this on facebook. i threatened her mom and her to take it down or i will pursue legal action, she also has a warrant for her arrest, and i was close to calling the cops to turn her in, but i just figured it would die down.  

so quesiton, will she just go away since i got rid of her and made her walk home and finally put my foot down in a serious way, or will this escalate.  what should i do? what can i expect from her? is there any chance to salvage the relationship because i still do care about her, i just think shes too unstable to associate with... .?  shes been silent for a week, no apology, nothing.  her last test a week ago was , " hope youre effing happy"... .  

best/mcgahee21

[McGahee21]

Hello everyone,

      around two years ago i met a girl at a bar and the first few months were great, she said she was falling in love with me, wanted to marry me one day, the whole 9 yards.  oddly tho during this time she would flirt with others in front of me, she even gave oral sex to a guy in a car when we went to the bar together, she blew up my phone the next day calling and texting 56x... .  for some reason i forgave her... . this type of acting out and then begging for forgiveness happened many times for months, including some of it being my own insecurities causing problems... .

she denies it of course but im sure she slept multiple times with a few of my friends, and the relationship began to devolve into me just giving her money but us not spending any time together. constantly i was questioning her contradicitons in words and actions, and lack of sex.  we never had sex but we would mess around.  she lies about literally everything and it wouldnt suprise me if her name was a lie... .  this was about the 5th time she came back a month ago, i begged her to come back, and i bought her a car, yes i know pathetic.  well enough was enough, i tried to calmly tell her i wasnt happy, that she should find a guy or gal, ( she is bi) that she is more into and that im not in love with her anymore.  i said i wanted my car back as im not interested in supporting a girl who doesnt even want to hang out or have a sexual relationship. i even offered her gas money to get rides to work the next week... .she completely flipped, went 140mph threatening to crash the car and kill us, and that if she couldnt keep the car she would make up a story that i tried to rape her... .i took the car back when she finally parked in front of my house and i went nuts... . i through all her out of my car, yelled at her, made her cry, and told her i do everything for you and all you do is sleep with my friends and talk bs about me behind my back.  keep in mind i was paying her rent, giving her clothes, saved her job and from jail, my unlce is a lawyer. she stole twice from two bars... .  i even bought her a car( i know pathetic, but her mom said she was about to lose her job, i suspect her mom is nuts too).  anyway, i finally put my foot down in a stern way and she falsely accused me of rape and abuse.  now since there is no evidence of this, she had a friend spread this on facebook. i threatened her mom and her to take it down or i will pursue legal action, she also has a warrant for her arrest, and i was close to calling the cops to turn her in, but i just figured it would die down.  

so quesiton, will she just go away since i got rid of her and made her walk home and finally put my foot down in a serious way, or will this escalate.  what should i do? what can i expect from her? is there any chance to salvage the relationship because i still do care about her, i just think shes too unstable to associate with... .?  shes been silent for a week, no apology, nothing.  her last test a week ago was , " hope youre effing happy"... .  

best/mcgahee21

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[McGahee21]

Im not positive, but hints of sarcasm about prostitution, they way she talks, drug addiction, and her overall view of everything being a hussle, and her speed in life makes me believe she delved into prostitution when she was a teenager.  i know she was kicked out when she was 16... .  

i really care about this girl, and she was so awesome when things were good, and i want to help her, i just dont know how... .  part of it has been my fault, because when drunk in the past, i would get so mad at her... .  i feel like its like no what i do for her, she keeps getting further away.  i bought her the car a month ago and we werent even hanging out... .