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[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

well its almost a year since me and myexgf broke up. Most here know my story since ive been here forever. LOL. and its been over 7 months since I went NC. Oh, she has tried, calls, text, emails, dirvebys etc... .  BUt i have resisted. Guess what? life does get better. My life is great once again. My money is better, my moods and health are better. NC is the the way to go. But you cant straddle the fence or NC will not work. I straddled it for 3 years and I could never walk away once I went NC and i mean strict NC and took it once day at a time. 7 months has went by and its is GOOD!

[mitchell16]

well its almost a year since me and myexgf broke up. Most here know my story since ive been here forever. LOL. and its been over 7 months since I went NC. Oh, she has tried, calls, text, emails, dirvebys etc... .  BUt i have resisted. Guess what? life does get better. My life is great once again. My money is better, my moods and health are better. NC is the the way to go. But you cant straddle the fence or NC will not work. I straddled it for 3 years and I could never walk away once I went NC and i mean strict NC and took it once day at a time. 7 months has went by and its is GOOD!

[Loosestrife]

well its almost a year since me and myexgf broke up. Most here know my story since ive been here forever. LOL. and its been over 7 months since I went NC. Oh, she has tried, calls, text, emails, dirvebys etc... .  BUt i have resisted. Guess what? life does get better. My life is great once again. My money is better, my moods and health are better. NC is the the way to go. But you cant straddle the fence or NC will not work. I straddled it for 3 years and I could never walk away once I went NC and i mean strict NC and took it once day at a time. 7 months has went by and its is GOOD!

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Thanks for this

[DyingLove]

Thank you for the ray of hope.   I didn't exactly break N/C today, but I did start a wordchum game with my ex's wordchum name.  Nothing happened which can possibly mean that she won't use or doesn't use that account any longer, or she just will not respond... .or she just doesn't have the game up and running on her phone.  I know it was a stupid thing to do and I felt that way afterwards.   I'm just holding on to the web of her... .not even a thread and she is still leading me around by the balls due to my own "letting her".  That is why your post is a ray of hope in such a cloudy sky over my life.  Thank you.

[leftconfused]

Thank you for this.  I love reading things like this.  Gives us all hope.  I tried going no contact and at day 19 which was past Sunday he reached out to tell me his Mom was in the hospital and they thought she had a stroke and was not looking good.  Well, he knows how much I love his Mom so of course I responded.  I went and saw her the last two nights and it turns out it wasn't a stroke and shes back to her fiesty self thank goodness.  I did not have to see him and our texts have been about her only, nothing else discussed.  I feel it did set me back some though.  I had severe anxiety when going to the hospital hoping he wouldn't be there and thankfully he wasn't but Im back to feeling zombie like and all run down.  Crazy what even a little interaction can do to us physically and emotionally.  Anyway thanks so much for the post!  I can't wait to get to where you are!