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If there was a BPD Playbook.
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So as you can see from some of my previous posts I been out with the exBPDgf now for about 3 months and she's followed the playbook to the letter. The disappearing act, to re circling around to my favorite the cat visitation.all while I maintained NC
Which brought me to my personal fav the car parked in my neighborhood. Which with her going out with the unknown neighbor was the catalyst for the breakup. I took this one hard. And I broke and had contact. Texting her along the lines of what the heck is the matter with you and further under no circumstance can any of this be considered normal. To shockingly (sarcasm) I got no immediate reply.
Until of course the next day when I'm beginning to get over it (as the playbook dictates) to which she denies! And pulls the old "your making assumptions why my car was there". Such the classic make you think your crazy routine. And right then and there I had an epiphany. Gigs up want nice guy whose easily walked on? Well he's not home right now and volleyed back "what your doing right now is a game/control technique, it's unoriginal and overplayed, try again" to which she tried again to counter back with some more unoriginal plays "it's unoriginal, stop I can prob script out what your going to say next so please spare me" I replied. And then nothing.
And for 2 glorious weeks nothing until today in which she starts texting hey I'll get you the money (backed rent) it's just I was in an accident and without a car. Then right back to please can u see the cat AND then the ole "I'm sorry for how things were/went down". What the heck do you even say to that? My answer is nothing. Never in human existent has such a trap set of words been set. Each ting I could respond to is a beautiful little gem with an anvil hanging over. Thanks but no thanks.
My point here is this. If I didn't find this site I'd still prob be sucked right into all this/ have no idea what to expect. You people and your experience have drafted me a pretty good playbook on what to expect and how to get out/move on. I say pretty bc Im fully aware that at anytime the ante can be uped and I could encounter something more crazier then the last but generally I feel pretty confident. did I break NC sure did but I felt pretty good afterward and did I establish a tempo that I'm ok with. Yup sure did. Do I plan anymore contact? Absolutely not but if I ever do I'll make sure it has the flavor of not a victim to it
My next is this. Look we've all delt with some serious stuff. And have lived in world with our partners that quite frankly isn't real life. Our ideas of what are normal are shattered and we feel like we've lost a lot. But don't lose your humor because at one point in all this you have to laugh (sounds cruel) but, you have to some of the stuff they may say or do after a point will eventually Make you laugh. Not so much at them but the situation in a whole. Accuse you of something or make up a delightful smear? Your gonna reach a point where you laugh. And its completly ok/ feels great. Ya this all sucks but in most situations in life there is some humor and this is definitely one. Being able to laugh/ see humor in parts of this has been a god send. Am I out of he woods no. Still have that pesky problem of going on with life to deal with it. But do I feel like I have a handle for once. I do. And thanks
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It is indeed funny how almost all the stories on this forum have many of the same moving parts. Its almost the same script, different actors.
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