Did your BPD relative admit she has BPD and then deny the diagnosis?

[deux soeurs]

My sister did this.  We had many conversations regarding her BPD and how we can work through her illness and interact respectfully.  I really tried to understand BPD.  It brought me here.  Unfortunately she overstepped her boundaries too many times and I felt , for my own sanity that I needed to go NC.  Did your person with BPD get diagnosed, share that diagnosis and then deny it?  My sister also has denied it and also claimed she has had so much therapy that she is, for all practical purposes cured.  That really makes no sense... .deny diagnosis but claim to be cured.  While she claims to still be in therapy, or so I've heard, her  behavior says otherwise.

[Deb]

deux soeurs ,

My sister told me she was diagnosed with BPD a year or so before we went NC. Now she denies she has it, says that she has PTSD because we are all so mean to her.   (We being her older kids and I) Oh, and she told someone that *I* diagnosed her and I was "just a maid." I had my own cleaning business which does not make me a "maid."  ABout 6 months after she told me that, I started looking into what BPD was. I really didn't know. And she fit 8 out of 9 criteria.

[deux soeurs]

deux soeurs ,

My sister told me she was diagnosed with BPD a year or so before we went NC. Now she denies she has it, says that she has PTSD because we are all so mean to her.   (We being her older kids and I) Oh, and she told someone that *I* diagnosed her and I was "just a maid." I had my own cleaning business which does not make me a "maid."  ABout 6 months after she told me that, I started looking into what BPD was. I really didn't know. And she fit 8 out of 9 criteria.

Deb,

Same happened to me.  I am NC for a year and I have heard she now says she has PTSD from all of our abuse.  I am so glad I have this forum to come to for a reality check!

[Kwamina]

Hi deux soeurs

I can imagine how frustrating this situation with your sister can be. When she got diagnosed, did she (as far as you know) get any targeted treatment for her BPD?

At what point do you feel did she start to deny her BPD diagnosis? Did something perhaps happen in her life? Was she perhaps confronted with the consequences of what it meant to have BPD and how others might respond to that 'label'?

[Meadowslark]

deux soeurs,

Do we have the same sister? (Maybe you and I are related and we didn't even know!) My sister was diagnosed BPD in January by the hospital she was taken to, even given referrals for services, but then denied everything and continues operating as if nothing ever happened. She does claim we were all "mean" to her. Part of this is true - NPDdad was very abusive, but my mom and I? No way.

[K1313]

In my mother's more insightful moments, she has acknowledged that she probably has BPD (she likes to say she has "borderline Borderline Personality Disorder".

Most of the time though... .? no. There's nothing wrong with her other than she's a sensitive soul. The therapist who diagnosed her with BPD? She claims he then tried to hit on her and seduce her in the midst of a session.

It's very frustrating to see someone come so close to admitting something huge like that and then totally backing away.

[Deb]

Kwamina, you asked deux soeurs what may have happened to herr sister to deny her diagnosis. I can tell ou in MY sister's case, she found a negative advocate counselor! This counselor convinced her she was being abused by her husband. She wasn't, her daughters confirm that, but he WAS abused. By her. She was supposed to see the counselor for "grief counseling" after out mother died. This woman was soo unqualified for grief counseling. She was, however, someone who worked with the DV shelter. 

[deux soeurs]

I can imagine how frustrating this situation with your sister can be. When she got diagnosed, did she (as far as you know) get any targeted treatment for her BPD?

At what point do you feel did she start to deny her BPD diagnosis? Did something perhaps happen in her life? Was she perhaps confronted with the consequences of what it meant to have BPD and how others might respond to that 'label'?

Kwamina my sister has been in therapy since she was in her early twenties.  She is now in her sixties.  She is on medication and has claimed to have so many different disorders:  co-dependency, ADHD, petit mal seizures, learning disorders(I am not sure which ones), face blindness, aspergers syndrome, bi polar... .they kept changing.  She is the one that told me she had BPD.  She has written about her diagnosis on another website.  She does claim to be "cured" at times and most recently says she was never diagnosed, but had some BPD traits.  She says she wanted to be cured, practiced DBT and radical acceptance, medication.  All I know is through the years and even in our last conversations she did not seem improved.  I am not a doctor but in my interactions she was not improved.  It is only recently she is denying the diagnosis.  I think she probably denies because she may understand now what it is, and that it is not a good thing to have but idk really.  My sister has a history of lying, a lot, so I can't really know.