Courts often ignore the initial claims and posturing. At least in my case it appeared so. I filed for divorce seeking custody, listed an assortment of Issues with Specifics. Her response was to also seek custody and claimed I was a child abuser. In two years the original filed statements and claims were never directly referenced.
Allegations without documentation are often either objected to and sustained or listened to and largely ignored as unsubstantiated hearsay.
Petitioner has used their intimate marital relations as a weapon against. Respondent often treating Respondent nice until Petitioner gets what he wants and then treating her worse subsequently.
I could have stated that about my ex, well, but sort of in reverse, she would lead me on like bait-and-switch then afterward tell me what she wanted in return. In this case I'm guessing it is almost surely pure projection or transference. StbEx is
Blaming you or more accurately
Blame Shifting from her onto you. She of course feels the intense emotional need to make you look worse than her. Expect that. Prepare yourself for that. Make sure your legal
strategy encompasses attacks such as that from her.
Frankly though, court couldn't care less about a spouse using niceness to get intimacy. (Isn't that called wooing and romancing?) After all, how many women complain that after the men (me: "make love" ex: "get sex" then they fall asleep? That's a natural aftereffect but should the men be blamed? Court's duty these days is (2) to unwind the marriage, not to deliver justice, retribution or punishment and (2) establish custody and parenting schedule structures for post-marriage parenting.
