having that same old argument

[Notwendy]

My H acts super nice in company, and then I get the sulk/rage/ST later.

The worst was the few times I had the chance to see old friends that I had not seen in many years- and some were guys who I considered to be like brothers. The events were groups, with spouses and kids. There was absolutely nothing inappropriate about them.

Of course I was happy to see my friends, and yes, very relaxed when talking to them. Why wouldn't I be? I have known them since we were kids.

This alone was triggering but more so because some of the friends were male. I have been very fortunate to have had close friends growing up. I realize this was hard on him, but as adults, we deal with the fact that our SO's have other people they care about in their lives.

The outburst that happened later when we were home was just awful.

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