What 'subtype' were they?

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As I continue reading more about BPD to understand my ex and see if I can get some idea on why it all crumbled apart, I found myself reading about Millon's Subtypes (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Borderline_personality_disorder#Millon.27s_subtypes).

I think my exBPDgf very much fit into the Discouraged subtype (although this raises more questions as they seem the most dependent) as she often suffered from depression, anxiety, very low self esteem and has heavily relied on others the last year. I also read about them specifically using fiction and especially fantasy to escape reality which really struck me and she puts alot of time into Roleplaying in Video games like The Elder Scrolls or Dragon Age.

What subtype (or several subtypes) did the person in your life seem to fit into?

[Corgicuddler95]

As I continue reading more about BPD to understand my ex and see if I can get some idea on why it all crumbled apart, I found myself reading about Millon's Subtypes (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Borderline_personality_disorder#Millon.27s_subtypes).

I think my exBPDgf very much fit into the Discouraged subtype (although this raises more questions as they seem the most dependent) as she often suffered from depression, anxiety, very low self esteem and has heavily relied on others the last year. I also read about them specifically using fiction and especially fantasy to escape reality which really struck me and she puts alot of time into Roleplaying in Video games like The Elder Scrolls or Dragon Age.

What subtype (or several subtypes) did the person in your life seem to fit into?

[TheRealJongoBong]

My wife is not an ex yet, but I thought I'd reply anyway.  It's interesting that Millon describes four subtypes and then states that "an individual diagnosed with BPD may exhibit none, one, or more of these". My wife clearly fits in the "none" category. 

Further down in the Wikipedia article there is a section on axis II comorbid disorders which fit my wife better. Two in particular, paranoid (25% comorbid with BPD), and narcissistic (39% comorbid with BPD) are exhibited quite strongly. A lot of her beliefs (which are close to fantasy in many cases) suggests comorbidity with schizoid or schizotypal disorders as well.

As I type this I have to remind myself again that these are all just labels, and that I am unqualified to diagnose any particular disorder that my wife may have.  I need to leave the diagnosis to the professionals, such as those at the psych ward where my wife is currently residing. I can only respond to my wife's behaviors, hopefully in a healthy fashion as described in the lessons.