Seperated 2 months 9 month old daughter

[liandme]

My wife has BPD II and what can I say. I am a libra and tried to have balance. I admitting became jealous and insecure. We dated 3 months and got engaged. Married after a year and pregnant she stopped meds. We lost baby at 5.5 months and then a short term miscarriage. Moved between states South and Northeast. I failed at creating stability. But I tried really hard. I kept feeling like soon I would be able to let the dust settle and figure things out. We went to Landmark and counsling, but nothing helped.

She ended the relationship i knew things were rough but she hadn't been her best so I was blind sided that she would walk away at this stage. She even and started another old fling back up within days of informing me she wanted to split. A guy she had "dated" 6 years prior while HE was married. Timing wasn't right, but now it was?

I am destroyed I put up with so much and gave all I could and she just left with anger and attitude. No remorse no compassion. I was and am still living out of state training for a new job.

She and I are drafting separation agreement and I found out new/old BF ios spending significant amounts of time with my 9 month old daughter. I feel like I have no rights. I can't take full custody and don't see a need yet. but with ehr physical and mental abuse I am worried about her long term ability to be in control of herself.

[adventurer]

wow - you are really going through some tough stuff right now. Sorry to hear about this.

You may want to spend some time on the board:[L3] Family law, divorce, and custody to help plan and get advice regarding the possible divorce and your rights regarding your daughter.

I imagine you are very worried about your wife's ability to be in control of herself, but unfortunately, you are probably just going to need to focus more on yourself and what's good for you and your daughter, right now.

This board has been a great help for me and I hope it can be for you, too.