Hi jcr1980,

I'm sorry that his hostility pushed you to react so strongly to your brother. What's going on with him, and how is the rest of the family involved? Any substance abuse on his side?
Maintaining a relationship with a person with BPD can be very tough, depending upon the severity of their behaviors. Asserting a boundary is good to protect yourself, but it's also sad because you do want to be there for him. Emotionally detaching from his rants (I.e., not taking them personally) while maintaining firm and consistent boundaries is a very tough thing to do. I failed with my ex, but I've gotten better with my mom (who hasn't raged at me since I left the house).
Do you sense that he will reach out at some point, will you?
We have communcation tools here, developed by leading experts in the disorder, which can help reduce triggers and conflict. Take a look:
Communication Skills - ValidationLet me know if this makes sense, or if you think it may help.
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