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« on: November 17, 2015, 07:26:00 AM »
I have a question regarding Push/ Pull. Do people with BPD do this with all of their romantic partners? Or do they just  do Push/ Pull with the people they care and love the most?
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« Reply #1 on: November 17, 2015, 08:23:51 AM »
In general, pwBPD do push/pull with everyone in their life (friends, co-workers, significant others), but especially with romantic partners.
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« Reply #2 on: November 17, 2015, 02:58:33 PM »
My guess is they do it by far the most with romantic partners since romantic partners trigger all those abandonment fears.  But I know my BPD ex could not hold a job long either and probably had 6 different ones in 8 years so he definitely couldn't function in a workplace either.  He also had very few friends and weak relationships with his family.
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« Reply #3 on: November 17, 2015, 04:14:12 PM »
Mine has had push-pull with his dog, his mom, his kids, his exes, his friends, his job, his school... .
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« Reply #4 on: November 17, 2015, 05:23:12 PM »
Mine had push/pull with her dog too, so with me it was a given. But typically it is with those who they feel are closest to them because of engulfment fears.
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« Reply #5 on: November 17, 2015, 05:27:37 PM »
Most do it with some degree to everyone but it seems to get worse the closer they are to you
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