She has to go back...

[Kate4queen]

You can get really nice flameless candles these days so that could be a compromise.

Also about the car, you know exactly what is going to happen if you let her have driving lessons, you even spelled it out, so why start the process and open yourself up to a whole lot more hurt?

She's being nice because she's been dumped by all her friends, and has nowhere to run away to at the moment. You probably also know this. As soon as she finds new friends, and she will, the whole cycle will start again. I hate to be blunt, but maybe she would be better in an environment away from all of you so she can start taking some responsibilities for her own actions? At the moment you are doing all the work and that's not fair.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[raytamtay3]

She's not being nice at all. In fact she's being a little brat. I'm too blame for everything once again.

You and DH are right about the driving school.  I'm just dreading the whole blowout that's sure to ensue when I tell her that until she gets herself a job and starts saving for a car, it not even going to be considered.

As far as the candles, I agree with that too because she is irresponsible.

And trust me when I say I would welcome putting her in an environment better equipped to deal with her. But at the moment, that's not an option.

[raytamtay3]

PS: I appreciate your bluntness Kate. 

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