He got the e-mail from the lawyer today...

[Depression = 72% of members]

My lawyer finally contacted him... he asked me once again today when he would hear something. The lawyer happen to respond 40 minutes later.  He didn't like what he heard! He wrote me that "we weren't together in July and August" (lie)  and "You know I have zero money"(lie)... .so now I wait and see what he comes up with to tell the lawyer. I just can't feel sorry for him. He put himself in this position completely.  The weekend was full of love-bombing all over Facebook between him and the gf. After all of his wishes and remembrances to me... .it's just ridiculous! If she only knew... .I am sure he would't be "the best man in the world"! Part of me can't wait until she knows what he is. Now I wonder what he will tell her the reason is that he can't get a divorce for at least 3 months. I am sure he is triangulating with me by saying I want him back or something stupid like that, but you would think she would wonder how someone could try to contest a divorce! Maybe he will tell her the truth- That we were together right after their vacation?  We will see, at least this is another step taken. By the way, someone posted on the gf's Facebook about in 2 months she will be posting baby selfies! I guess he lied about how pregnant she is as well! She must have gotten pregnant after about 4 months of them dating! How awful is that? It's mind boggling how these people live. I don't see why anyone should be so surprised that he can't get divorced... .I think I am on the other side of some people here that don't understand why their exes don't get divorced. Who knows, maybe they have been still involved with them! In this state it means trying to reconcile. Mine is such a liar. I can't believe anything he says... it's shocking what I have been through. People don't understand why I am not just getting divorced and moving on... .I am not going to lie in court and commit perjury... .I just am not.

[Herodias]

My lawyer finally contacted him... he asked me once again today when he would hear something. The lawyer happen to respond 40 minutes later.  He didn't like what he heard! He wrote me that "we weren't together in July and August" (lie)  and "You know I have zero money"(lie)... .so now I wait and see what he comes up with to tell the lawyer. I just can't feel sorry for him. He put himself in this position completely.  The weekend was full of love-bombing all over Facebook between him and the gf. After all of his wishes and remembrances to me... .it's just ridiculous! If she only knew... .I am sure he would't be "the best man in the world"! Part of me can't wait until she knows what he is. Now I wonder what he will tell her the reason is that he can't get a divorce for at least 3 months. I am sure he is triangulating with me by saying I want him back or something stupid like that, but you would think she would wonder how someone could try to contest a divorce! Maybe he will tell her the truth- That we were together right after their vacation?  We will see, at least this is another step taken. By the way, someone posted on the gf's Facebook about in 2 months she will be posting baby selfies! I guess he lied about how pregnant she is as well! She must have gotten pregnant after about 4 months of them dating! How awful is that? It's mind boggling how these people live. I don't see why anyone should be so surprised that he can't get divorced... .I think I am on the other side of some people here that don't understand why their exes don't get divorced. Who knows, maybe they have been still involved with them! In this state it means trying to reconcile. Mine is such a liar. I can't believe anything he says... it's shocking what I have been through. People don't understand why I am not just getting divorced and moving on... .I am not going to lie in court and commit perjury... .I just am not.

[blissful_camper]

My lawyer finally contacted him... he asked me once again today when he would hear something. The lawyer happen to respond 40 minutes later.  He didn't like what he heard! He wrote me that "we weren't together in July and August" (lie)  and "You know I have zero money"(lie)... .so now I wait and see what he comes up with to tell the lawyer. I just can't feel sorry for him. He put himself in this position completely.  The weekend was full of love-bombing all over Facebook between him and the gf. After all of his wishes and remembrances to me... .it's just ridiculous! If she only knew... .I am sure he would't be "the best man in the world"! Part of me can't wait until she knows what he is. Now I wonder what he will tell her the reason is that he can't get a divorce for at least 3 months. I am sure he is triangulating with me by saying I want him back or something stupid like that, but you would think she would wonder how someone could try to contest a divorce! Maybe he will tell her the truth- That we were together right after their vacation?  We will see, at least this is another step taken. By the way, someone posted on the gf's Facebook about in 2 months she will be posting baby selfies! I guess he lied about how pregnant she is as well! She must have gotten pregnant after about 4 months of them dating! How awful is that? It's mind boggling how these people live. I don't see why anyone should be so surprised that he can't get divorced... .I think I am on the other side of some people here that don't understand why their exes don't get divorced. Who knows, maybe they have been still involved with them! In this state it means trying to reconcile. Mine is such a liar. I can't believe anything he says... it's shocking what I have been through. People don't understand why I am not just getting divorced and moving on... .I am not going to lie in court and commit perjury... .I just am not.

Let your lawyer take over and remove yourself from a toxic mess.  The more that you focus on them the longer you delay your own healing.  The greatest gift you can give yourself is creating a beautiful life for yourself. 

[unicorn2014]

Herodias, I am sorry for what you are going through. In an affair everyone is hurt, the husband, the wife, the other woman (or other man), children, family, friends. Its just a bad idea all around. I hope as well that you are able to find peace within yourself and beginning your journey to healing.

[ladylee]

You are going through a lot Herodias and when they broadcast their lives on Facebook, it is tactless, but it is also grist for the mill which they don't want to face, so they cover up with lies. It just makes the process more complex, just document him. I'm going through the same stuff, but mine isn't getting anyone pregnant, he's fixed. But I have a tape of him yelling at me that he doesnt know I have and I have to figure out how to tell him I have it somehow, because it is evidence I want to use. I may not get to include it though. They are liars, but lying is perjury and we are not like them.