Roomate situation, Staarting becoming romantic.

[Depression = 72% of members]

I am very glad I found this site. I have been living with my roommate for 4 months and things are starting to get romantic. I understand that it is going to be a challenge either way if we stay just as roommates or become romantic. I am willing to accept her as she is and enjoy very much that she is a part of my life. I have read though a few of the forms and have gained a lot of information. Last night was a rough one for me. She became upset when I could not fix her computer in a timlely fashion. She became very upset and started to tear into me about everything. I am used to that looking back I think my exwife also had BPD a lot of common traits. I hope I handles it well. I maintained my composer and did not overreact to her. I keep i the back of my mind that what she suffers from and did not take it to heart to much she did hit a few cords that got to me and I reacted but calmly however, I did not walk away I sat and listened to what she had to say. She had a lot of truth in what she was saying. It seamed to me that it built up and went off like a time bomb. after a while she went to her room. My last words were I love you and have a good night. I tried very hard and I know I withdrew into my safe quiet place and could not find wrods to say. This is just a short intro into what is going with me. I

[Charile]

I am very glad I found this site. I have been living with my roommate for 4 months and things are starting to get romantic. I understand that it is going to be a challenge either way if we stay just as roommates or become romantic. I am willing to accept her as she is and enjoy very much that she is a part of my life. I have read though a few of the forms and have gained a lot of information. Last night was a rough one for me. She became upset when I could not fix her computer in a timlely fashion. She became very upset and started to tear into me about everything. I am used to that looking back I think my exwife also had BPD a lot of common traits. I hope I handles it well. I maintained my composer and did not overreact to her. I keep i the back of my mind that what she suffers from and did not take it to heart to much she did hit a few cords that got to me and I reacted but calmly however, I did not walk away I sat and listened to what she had to say. She had a lot of truth in what she was saying. It seamed to me that it built up and went off like a time bomb. after a while she went to her room. My last words were I love you and have a good night. I tried very hard and I know I withdrew into my safe quiet place and could not find wrods to say. This is just a short intro into what is going with me. I

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[C.Stein]

Welcome  ,

It is good you are seeking to learn about BPD prior to getting involved.  I encourage you to learn as much as you can about the disorder before you make any decisions.  Dysfunctional behavior with borderlines is typically triggered in close intimate relationships.  The closer (emotionally) a borderline gets to someone the more they will dysregulate and the traits will manifest themselves, some more severely than others.  This is something you need to know and prepare yourself for before going down that path.  Understanding the disorder will help but also understanding what others have and/or are going through in their relationships with a borderline can help immensely.