A certain perspective

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

I wanted to get this thought down before I lose it:

He made the love affair. It was his creation, really. We met and liked each other, and I'd have been content with a friendship, but he kept pressing and pressing until we were in love. Just more and more attention and adulation. He took who I was and distorted me and shaped me into a love idol he could worship.

I'm not saying I was a victim, or that I was blameless, but his impulsiveness and intensity made it what it was. I was to be the one who understood him like no other, who was so extraordinary. He wanted to be the ordinary person to whom this great love had happened, and I was the rare treasure. But it was his creation. When he was done with it, he smashed it.

I realize this is not the whole truth, but it's a significant truth that I have to consider now that it's occurred to me.

Does anyone else feel this way?

[steelwork]

I wanted to get this thought down before I lose it:

He made the love affair. It was his creation, really. We met and liked each other, and I'd have been content with a friendship, but he kept pressing and pressing until we were in love. Just more and more attention and adulation. He took who I was and distorted me and shaped me into a love idol he could worship.

I'm not saying I was a victim, or that I was blameless, but his impulsiveness and intensity made it what it was. I was to be the one who understood him like no other, who was so extraordinary. He wanted to be the ordinary person to whom this great love had happened, and I was the rare treasure. But it was his creation. When he was done with it, he smashed it.

I realize this is not the whole truth, but it's a significant truth that I have to consider now that it's occurred to me.

Does anyone else feel this way?

[WoundedBibi]

Yes! It was him who pursued me, who made me into the ideal woman in his mind. I'm not blameless, but I SO get what you mean... This was a fiction created by him... And now I'm in a horror story (work wise) created by him too...

[steelwork]

And now I'm in a horror story [... .] created by him too...

Yep.