9 months out, cheated on and completely replaced and cut off

[Depression = 72% of members]

my exBPDgf seems to be unblocking me every Thursday on fb as I notice her profile picture appear when I check old inbox messages after my phone being idle for a while, but when I go to quickly block her while I have the chance she has already blocked me again, then her profile pic is not visable as I'm blocked again, its getting quite frustrating as I don't like her being able to unblock and look at my fb profile when she wants to, I don't want her to have that power over me, she seems to be happy with my replacement, is it typical BPD behaviour to cyberstalk me out of curiosity? to see what I'm doing with my life or does she miss me and regret what she did and how awful she treated me, she never shown remorse and wanted to hurt me as much as possible upon her exit from the relationship into the new one, after all I did for her, all the kindess and love and support I shown her, all the abuse I took and still stayed by her side wanting to somehow help her be happy, so yeh I doubt she gives a monkeys about me... but its so hard to believe that 4 years being so close and in love and going thru so much together and just beginning to settle down and be stable she split me black out of the blue never gave me a second thought and changed her profile pic to her and her new bf days after... and also changed her relationship status... they had been seeing eachother for quite a few months its seems... i think I triggered her abandonment fears and we got to close living together, i could go on for hours... dam yo... talk to meh x

[Rickybee]

my exBPDgf seems to be unblocking me every Thursday on fb as I notice her profile picture appear when I check old inbox messages after my phone being idle for a while, but when I go to quickly block her while I have the chance she has already blocked me again, then her profile pic is not visable as I'm blocked again, its getting quite frustrating as I don't like her being able to unblock and look at my fb profile when she wants to, I don't want her to have that power over me, she seems to be happy with my replacement, is it typical BPD behaviour to cyberstalk me out of curiosity? to see what I'm doing with my life or does she miss me and regret what she did and how awful she treated me, she never shown remorse and wanted to hurt me as much as possible upon her exit from the relationship into the new one, after all I did for her, all the kindess and love and support I shown her, all the abuse I took and still stayed by her side wanting to somehow help her be happy, so yeh I doubt she gives a monkeys about me... but its so hard to believe that 4 years being so close and in love and going thru so much together and just beginning to settle down and be stable she split me black out of the blue never gave me a second thought and changed her profile pic to her and her new bf days after... and also changed her relationship status... they had been seeing eachother for quite a few months its seems... i think I triggered her abandonment fears and we got to close living together, i could go on for hours... dam yo... talk to meh x

[WoundedBibi]

my exBPDgf seems to be unblocking me every Thursday on fb

is it typical BPD behaviour to cyberstalk me out of curiosity? to see what I'm doing with my life or does she miss me and regret what she did and how awful she treated me

All pwBPD are different people.

Maybe she is is curious. Maybe she isn't ready to let go of you yet. Maybe she's just trying to get a reaction from you. Maybe she doesn't even know why she does this.

As no one can look inside her head why she does this is pure speculation; you don't know now and you will not know in future.

If she only does this on Thursdays what about staying away from FB on Thursdays? That way you can't see what she does so it can't bother you anymore.

[Rickybee]

I'm trying to time it so I can block her when she unblocks me, feel like she has power over me still  thanks for your reply

[CollateralDamage]

Technically speaking, you can block her even if you are blocked.  Just type the profile name in the block area on a computer and click block.  The only time you can't do this is if she has deactivated her account. 

If you go ahead and block her, then whenever she unblocks you from her side, she will still not be able to see anything.  Of course, most BPD's I know have a fake account anyway... .but at least she will get the message next Thursday

[Rickybee]

Thanks, but when I am blocked I cannot go to her profile to select the drop box to block :s she is not visable and her is black meaning you can't select, only when name is blue you can select and get on profile to block

[Herodias]

All you have to do is go to your "privacy shortcuts" up on the right... .scroll down to "how do I stop someone from bothering me" - then start to type in her name. Then block.  My husbands account would still come up there, even though he has me blocked- I can block him. You don't have to catch her unblocking you... .

[lunchbox123]

She can't block and reblock you without a 48 hr waiting period.

I think it may just be that her profile picture is temporarily saved or cached in your phone.

[Rickybee]

Yay, just figured out, didn't think I could block whilst I'm blocked, typed her name in as you said and it worked, so next time she unblocks for however long that period is she wont be able to access my profile... chuffed

[Herodias]

Good for you!