Helping my girlfriend find treatment

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Hi! I'm new here and I'm trying to help my girlfriend get her BPD diagnosed. We're both fairly certain that's what it is, and she's been showing symptoms for about 4 years now, and we've thought it was BPD for about a year now. We're about to graduate from college, and her parents refuse to believe there is anything wrong with her even though she's been suicidal for months and they know about it. Suggestions?

[missmaizono]

Hi! I'm new here and I'm trying to help my girlfriend get her BPD diagnosed. We're both fairly certain that's what it is, and she's been showing symptoms for about 4 years now, and we've thought it was BPD for about a year now. We're about to graduate from college, and her parents refuse to believe there is anything wrong with her even though she's been suicidal for months and they know about it. Suggestions?

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[Turkish]

You may be able to find a resource through your local NEA-BPD:

www.borderlinepersonalitydisorder.com

What kind of resources has she reached out to? Have you gotten to the point of calling a local suicide hot line? Handling this alone is tough. What's the back story here?

Turkish

[Answers]

I just spent the last 6 months doing the same with my pwBPD. After a few failed attempts we learned a couple of lessons the hard way. There are therapists who claim this is an area they do work but they simply do not have the level of expertise they need in this area. If you research online there are centers in most major cities that specialize in BPD and treating it with DBT. After our experience my suspicion is that part of the reason so many patients fail to make progress is that they are not getting the specialized help they truly need. The average independent, family therapists does not have the resources for BPD. One example is that we have learned that group therapy is often done in combination with individual sessions and can be as important.