Wondering if it's just so controlled that she can't tolerate it?
Since it is no control from them at all, maybe they don't have any reason to do it. It is like my ex considers it as the same as no visitation at all... .
It seems that my ex is more interested in “winning” the case then to have contact with our son. Even after getting supervised visitation because of documented BPD, drug use and arrests, she still thinks she can get main custody in Oct. However, it seems against her purpose to not at least “fake” the interest in seeing 2s. It should be a given that not showing up will speak against her in court and her lawyer (according to mine) has encouraged her to do so.
The most obvious reason is of course that she cannot stay drug free and deliver negative drug tests (which is the min. criteria for the supervised visitations).
However, I am very curious to how pwBPD w/o drug problems react to supervised visitation. Is this a "show stopper" for them or do some follow through with it?