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« on: August 01, 2016, 04:36:21 AM »

This is linked to my current thread me ex and now being gay !

When I suspected was goin on with my ex and communication regards to our son and other " buissness " stuff like money who's paying such and such bill now we split etc It always ended with her saying
Do not contact me unless it's about jaxon ! My life has nothing to do with you now !

Once I found and she was at the airport exchanging texts all night with me as she missed her flight .

How come all the anger and acting out pushing me away .
When I got tired and wanted to end the text conversaition i said are ok now then ? And talk when you when your back and I won't ask quistions about your relaitionship or life and you please do the same I got this text back .
" one minute we were having a laugh etc and now you text that  ! I almost fell for it and you saying sorry for all the hurtfull things you said ! Leave me alone ! "

Can only put it down to her feelings changing again ?
Or is it possible that she may be regrets there ? Before I knew she felt secure then when I knew she panicked at that message of I won't get involved with it all and feared loosing me as a attachment ?
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« Reply #1 on: August 01, 2016, 04:58:18 AM »

This is linked to my current thread me ex and now being gay !

When I suspected was goin on with my ex and communication regards to our son and other " buissness " stuff like money who's paying such and such bill now we split etc It always ended with her saying
Do not contact me unless it's about our son ! ! My life has nothing to do with you now !

Once I found and she was at the airport exchanging texts all night with me as she missed her flight .

How come all the anger and acting out pushing me away to talking about normal things and calmly .
When I got tired and wanted to end the text conversaition i said are ok now then ? And talk when you when your back and I won't ask quistions about your relaitionship or life and you please do the same I got this text back .
" one minute we were having a laugh etc and now you text that  ! I almost fell for it and you saying sorry for all the hurtfull things you said ! Leave me alone ! "

Can only put it down to her feelings changing again ?
Or is it possible that she may be regrets there ? Before I knew she felt secure then when I knew she panicked at that message of I won't get involved with it all and feared loosing me as a attachment ?
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« Reply #2 on: August 01, 2016, 05:57:40 AM »

From what I can tell with my exs they switch between loving you and hating you, from missing you to you dont exist and it all depends on their circumstances.

She missed her flight and was probably scared, upset and lonely. At that moment intime you became her security blanket. She put aside all the negative feelings for you and ran to you for comfort. I bet as soon as her life got back on track the negative re appeared as she no longer needed you. Add to this her guilt for how she treated you and throw in some shame and you end up with a toxic backlash that has to paint you black again or else she would have to take responsibility for her behaviour.
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« Reply #3 on: August 01, 2016, 06:09:25 AM »

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