Has anyone gotten back with a 'cut off' type?

[SoMadSoSad]

Ex left me for for replacement 7 months ago... .been nc for 3 months... .still miss her terribly... .I understood her even before I knew about BPD. Now I understand her more. What led to t he breakup was that she destroyed property of mine at my parents house. I had to kick her out as it was kind of disrespectful to rage at my parents at 9 am. After I kicked her out we started hanging out less because she lives 20 min away and I work 12 hrs a day and am usually tired. I'm guessing she saw this as abandonment cause what she did next I would have never expected. One day she was cold when I asked if we could hang out at the movies. She made excuse to hang with mom. Told her I miss her and wanted to hold and kiss her and she said she gets enough from her mom. I could tell she was still mad that I had not picked up food she made me for after work because I was tired. I thought giving her space and time to cool off would be wise. I think the next day she blocked me on social media and blocked my phone number ( on a phone that I leased for her while we were together which would become a problem after the breakup). I didn't even get an "its over" text or anything. Later I do some snooping around and find out she is grooming replacement and starting a relationship with him. They've been together ever since. She doesn't have much to go by in terms of past relationships so I'm not 100 percent sure I can say she is the "cut off" type but by the way she is acting and the little bit of past relationships she has it would say so. Long story short I want to know if there is a chance she will give me another chance.

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[Rickybee]

Well, in my case no but I'm glad deep down... you will be too eventually... in my case my replacement is in slightly better shape than me, has a better hair line than me, has more money than me and probably has a larger dick than me... excuse my rudeness... just the facts in my case... don't get me wrong I has a lot going on for me and I'm a good looking guy and have always been told that and always had good looking partners in the past, and downstairs I guess i'm average, she made me hate myself and always put me down telling me im fat which im not... she always had a serious eating disorder btw... .anyway... im glad my exBPDgf dont want me back i dont want her back after her revealing her complete true self... and after ive woken up and been out the fog long enough to see clearly all the madness and evil i put up with... im wiser for it and getting stronger for it... .and you will too if like me in the beginning you have no choice but to except the discard and replacement and cut off... mine did try to play games and hurt me more by trying to pull me back in a few times but was ony to hurt me... the few times i did speak to her early into the break up i had hopes we could work it out... only for her to then say she loves my replacement and has no desire to have me back what so ever... .nothing there but pain... .she is still with him... .had tried to add me on social media a few times since but ive been complete NC since xmas... .and we broke up a year ago today

[SoMadSoSad]

Well, in my case no but I'm glad deep down... you will be too eventually... in my case my replacement is in slightly better shape than me, has a better hair line than me, has more money than me and probably has a larger dick than me... excuse my rudeness... just the facts in my case... don't get me wrong I has a lot going on for me and I'm a good looking guy and have always been told that and always had good looking partners in the past, and downstairs I guess i'm average, she made me hate myself and always put me down telling me im fat which im not... she always had a serious eating disorder btw... .anyway... im glad my exBPDgf dont want me back i dont want her back after her revealing her complete true self... and after ive woken up and been out the fog long enough to see clearly all the madness and evil i put up with... im wiser for it and getting stronger for it... .and you will too if like me in the beginning you have no choice but to except the discard and replacement and cut off... mine did try to play games and hurt me more by trying to pull me back in a few times but was ony to hurt me... the few times i did speak to her early into the break up i had hopes we could work it out... only for her to then say she loves my replacement and has no desire to have me back what so ever... .nothing there but pain... .she is still with him... .had tried to add me on social media a few times since but ive been complete NC since xmas... .and we broke up a year ago today

Yea my replacement is also better. Guess that is a good reason to never look back.

[Rickybee]

They wont last, I know in my case they wont not in the long run... i know this because I know how insane she really is... what I witnessed was nothing short of insanity during my 4 year relationship, he looks a stable decent guy to be honest, very good looking... I can imagine the jealousy and rages that causes her as that happened with me... not sure about you but I'm pretty sure it aint going to be smooth sailing for my ex's relationship... i imagine he is confused and hurt/disrespected a lot and thinking he can be the one to help her illness and give her the love and support she needs as i did... deadly... .once they have your sympathy and have you hooked and feeling sorry for them for there problems thats when they got you... thats when the abuse starts and it goes down hill... all the strange behaviours will play out again i think... i never want that kind of instablity and confusion again... being with somebody devoted and loving 100% committed with a BPD or cluster b partner and having my heart and soul ripped out was the hardest lesson ive ever had to learn... but i'm prepared and armed with the knowledge never to be emotionally and psychologically abused again... if anybody else will have me... im an attractive guy but my self esteem is -50 right now

[wheretostart0]

mine cut me off.

Don't say anything about kisses and all that. Be a mystery. Even though she has BPD you still need to remain attractive and in control. I know its tough but be careful with your words. Indifference my friend. Shell start to wonder.