How did you survive?

[naguma]

February 28th 2015. Last day with the ex after 11 years.
I feel old-ish. Well, more in the sense that it's very late to start a family.
On the good side, I start a new job next week. Something that really moves my life forward. Sadly, after my ex and I broke up there was a need to do something big - which lead to a re-education - which lead to this new job. In a way, it was her that caused this to happen... .and another toxic relationship, but that's not the point here.
So that's ok, however emotionally things seem to be running about 10%.
After the break up there was a protection order against me, which I did not fight due to money issues. After it was given a 2 year span, she has continued to attempt to contact me until about 2 months ago when she stopped.
Started dating last December (way to early). Currently seeing a woman, she is into me - however it's very hard to commit (which makes me feel guilty and probably the point of this post).

Anyways, what is your guys story? How did you recover? and so on.

[Infern0]

Figuring out my codependency was caused by C PTSD and that was what really caused all my pain, not her.

That recovered me about 70% or so.

The other 30% is healing my cptsd good luck with that though, you really need a therapist for it and I can't afford it so I just soldier on as Mr 70% man

[bus boy]

HI, my recovery took some time. She left 9 years ago but we continued a sexual r/s until 1 year ago. It was an r/s of emotional abuse, manuplation and lies. Oh ya and control. It was very easy for her to control my access to our son with sex. I wanted a family she didn't. It was very mentally confusing, I never felt right emotionally or mentally. when I pushed harder she found a new victim. I thought my world would end, I was crushed but a year of her gone and little to no contact on my part, ignorant belittleing texts on her part. I have never felt better mentally. I guess I could say her finding a new victim saved me and made a better stronger r/s with my son and I.