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August 16, 2016, 01:28:18 AM »
Hello everyone
I posted just a while ago about the attacks I got from my son's mother last weekend. I was wondering if anyone could help me understand why she would say these things? I've told her over the past few months I did not want to hear about her personal problems or her life.
We only speak about our son, I am detaching and I have to maintain limited contact for my wellbeing.
I know she tries to control me but why would she respond so horribly to my not wanting to be around her. She's happy, she's in another relationship?
Why torture me with things that were not true or things that happend years ago?
It did hurt, is that her intention?
I need to get away from her and her poisen for good.
Does anything these people do make any damn sense?
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Everything in your previous post screamed "I want to hurt him."
You're split black. She is going to want to inflate everything good about her life, tear down everything you value, make you doubt yourself, and hurt you as much as possible.
It's hard to know how much is the disorder and how much is conscious. The distinction is meaningless. Her behavior is the only relevant thing, and hers is exceptionally ___ty.
Do what you need to do to protect yourself and your son.
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Quote from: JerryRG on August 16, 2016, 01:28:18 AM
It did hurt, is that her intention?
I also believe this is it. My ex even went as far as proclaiming that's her goal to see me suffer and in pain like I have apparently put her through. It's simply evil.
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Just depends on her current emotion of the moment; My ex. told me she loved me, then when I didn't respond the exact correct way, minutes later she told me she hated me.
I also had continuous nasty stuff; they just want to retain an emotional attachment, and will do whatever works. This is why it is recommended to respond in as boring and non-emotional way as possible when you have to communicate with them.
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