All the dots are connecting

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

It takes a long time to heal from the NPD/BPD r/s and I suppose a piece of us is changed forever. But some things get stronger, in my case I created strong boundaries. On Friday when ex was in her narcisstic state I didn't respond or defend, I kept it to topic and very politely told her I here for s9. We do try to figure things and I was trying to figure her BF. Probably a waste of my good energy, I know but she has a motive for everything. He has a purpose. I posted before she hates Frenchman, it's a French English community that division has been there for 200 years. He's a big goon, probably not very smart from what I'm told, drinks a lot. He seems to fit her profile of someone she can control and everything I have said since day one is turning true. He comes from rough people so she would like that. She always only found solutions through conflict, threats and threats of violence. Threats of violence seem to be normal. And she seems to have found her man to deliver her brand of justice. His cousin was such a trouble maker in the community they shot him and the body was never found. So this is the kind of person who fits her bill nicely.

[bus boy]

It takes a long time to heal from the NPD/BPD r/s and I suppose a piece of us is changed forever. But some things get stronger, in my case I created strong boundaries. On Friday when ex was in her narcisstic state I didn't respond or defend, I kept it to topic and very politely told her I here for s9. We do try to figure things and I was trying to figure her BF. Probably a waste of my good energy, I know but she has a motive for everything. He has a purpose. I posted before she hates Frenchman, it's a French English community that division has been there for 200 years. He's a big goon, probably not very smart from what I'm told, drinks a lot. He seems to fit her profile of someone she can control and everything I have said since day one is turning true. He comes from rough people so she would like that. She always only found solutions through conflict, threats and threats of violence. Threats of violence seem to be normal. And she seems to have found her man to deliver her brand of justice. His cousin was such a trouble maker in the community they shot him and the body was never found. So this is the kind of person who fits her bill nicely.

[gotbushels]

(... .) I didn't (... .) defend, I kept it to topic and very politely told her I here for s9. (... .)

Nice one!