outplayed and checkmated

[Depression = 72% of members]

I wonder how many members witnessed this: when the BPD's lies, nanipulation and deception catches up with them? We were busy with renovations when she jumped in a car and disappeared without a trace. She returned past midnight and knew she screwed up so she went into attack mode but I didn't jade I laid down the facts. She called the police on me to remove from the premises.  The station commander is an year long friend of mine and notified his officees his officers of my predicament before hand. He personally came to our dwelling. She was caught red handed in a way when he asked where she had been. She then claimed she was looking for a tattoo artist willing to do a tattoo on me. I replied I am not allowed under contract to get any more tattoos and she knows it. She changed her story and he called an officer and asked if my car was spotted in the area she claimed to be as this is a high risk area. He then told her to stop laying false charges against me or face arrest. She then told him I was drunk and violent and threatened to assault her. He then asked me to see the security camera that was installed in our house. I installed it secretly to avoid any false accusations. She went pale when she saw footage.she stormed into the house and phoned a friend he told her that he was with me since 5pm until 10 while I was making her a gift and that she should be ashamed to spread lies about me. Then she tried her daughter who just said please mom you always bad mouth him and you think we believe you. Get help. Out of options she went quiet. My fiend told her that she has to seriously consider counseling and as an ex officer the government will pay the cost.  After he left she went to bed and slept. I am not proud of her degradidation but knew the time will come.

[adaw]

I wonder how many members witnessed this: when the BPD's lies, nanipulation and deception catches up with them? We were busy with renovations when she jumped in a car and disappeared without a trace. She returned past midnight and knew she screwed up so she went into attack mode but I didn't jade I laid down the facts. She called the police on me to remove from the premises.  The station commander is an year long friend of mine and notified his officees his officers of my predicament before hand. He personally came to our dwelling. She was caught red handed in a way when he asked where she had been. She then claimed she was looking for a tattoo artist willing to do a tattoo on me. I replied I am not allowed under contract to get any more tattoos and she knows it. She changed her story and he called an officer and asked if my car was spotted in the area she claimed to be as this is a high risk area. He then told her to stop laying false charges against me or face arrest. She then told him I was drunk and violent and threatened to assault her. He then asked me to see the security camera that was installed in our house. I installed it secretly to avoid any false accusations. She went pale when she saw footage.she stormed into the house and phoned a friend he told her that he was with me since 5pm until 10 while I was making her a gift and that she should be ashamed to spread lies about me. Then she tried her daughter who just said please mom you always bad mouth him and you think we believe you. Get help. Out of options she went quiet. My fiend told her that she has to seriously consider counseling and as an ex officer the government will pay the cost.  After he left she went to bed and slept. I am not proud of her degradidation but knew the time will come.

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[Turkish]

So it sounds like you "won" this time.  Partly because you installed cameras, partly due to her D, and partly due to your relationship with the police.  Only the first is 100% under your control.  The latter two could have gone otherwise. 

Knowing nothing else,  I'd ask: what else are you doing to keep yourself safe? And,  what steps are you taking,  or willing to take,  to save this relationship?  In other words,  it sounds like you are stuck in crisis mode.

What's your goal here? 

[adaw]

I postponed all actions until next week for the sake of her children. They know their mom is very ill but I told them to enjoy her charade and to trust me in what is going to happen. For my own and her and their sake I applied to the court to have her admitted into a mental instute. I wish there was a quick fix or an alternative but she left me without a choice. She tries to be carefree and free spirited but cannot handle the responsiblity of adulthood or resolve an issue with me without violence. I'm sorry it had to come to this but had no other option, I am doing this because I love her and want to lessen her suffering.