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Akeru. When someone leaves, an empty space is created, the opening in which a new beginning can take place.
It's Japanese, I read it somewhere , hope I got it right.
I like it.
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Nice Sadly! The English word that may be equivalent is "opportunity". So what are you going to fill that empty space up with? We now have the opportunity to create the life of our dreams; what does that look like for you?
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It's looking better thank you. Today I didn't cry. I am booking a holiday to Malta to spend some time with my brother, the yacht he works on is docked there for a couple of months for a refit. I have applied for 3 jobs. I think I'm going to be ok. x
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Quote from: Sadly on September 25, 2016, 02:36:46 PM
It's looking better thank you. Today I didn't cry. I am booking a holiday to Malta to spend some time with my brother, the yacht he works on is docked there for a couple of months for a refit. I have applied for 3 jobs. I think I'm going to be ok. x
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Hi,
If you want to know more about Akeru Susan Anderson explains what does this mean in great detail on her book "The Journey from Abandonment to Healing: Turn the End of a Relationship into the Beginning of a New Life" I am reading this and has helped me so much. There is bit more about Akeru below.
"AKeRU is a Japanese word that means “to pierce, to end, to begin.”
AKeRU is the name I’ve given to the five hands-on mental exercises that turn the pain of an ending into the beginning of positive change.
AKeRU makes its debut in both JOURNEY books.
AKeRU works with the natural flow of life process, enabling the individual to restore a sense of self, increase life, and find new love.
AKeRU recognizes abandonment as rebirth. It taps into your capacity for growth.
There is an AKeRU exercise for each stage of the abandonment process called S.W.I.R.L.
For the SHATTERING stage, there is an exercise for staying in the moment that helps you manage pain and enhance the quality of your life.
For WITHDRAWAL, there is a written dialogue that taps into your oldest and truest feelings – feelings that have been interfering from deep within your personality all along, and allows you to turn them around. If you make this exercise a part of your daily life, positive change is inevitable.
For INTERNALIZING, there is a visualization exercise that re-directs your psychic energy and helps you focus on your deepest dreams and needs, build toward real achievements, and change life direction.
For RAGE, the task is to use your rage energy to take constructive actions in your life. To help you do this, there is an inventory that helps you discover a powerful new voice, the Outer Child. Outer child is the part of the personality that acts out the inner child’s anger and frustration. Your Outer Child takes emotional hostages instead of forming healthy relationships. Outer Child is the culprit who sabotages your attempts to bring love into your life. The deconstruction of your Outer Child defenses allows you to change your behavior, resolve insecurity, and become ‘unstuck.’ (A 100 item Outer Child inventory is included in JOURNEY.)
For LIFTING, the task is to increase your capacity for love and make a new connection, which includes a Five Point Action Plan."
I highly recommend it.
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