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[beach dreamer]

Hi, I am just learning about BPD and it fits my husband to a T but he is not willing to seek help. In one of his latest episodes he left home after a fight and came back home 3 weeks later with all these apologies and promises which only lasted 2 days an he left again. 4 days after he left this time (4 weeks now) I told him he could not come back until he was willing to seek help. I don't know where to turn. He is not working enough to pay our bills and I'm becoming more and more depressed.

[fromheeltoheal]

Hi beach dreamer-

And welcome!  I'm sorry you're in the middle of that, it's very painful and confusing, and we understand.  One place you can turn you already did, here, and good for you, and while you don't have any control over his behavior, do you know what you're going to do?  Please tell us more of your story and keep reading, there's a lot here that can help.