My BPD partner is cheating and treating to leave me.

[Mononino]

The mother of my son is treating to leave me for  the ex boyfriend. They talk all day and have made plans to be together. She have said to me really painful things. I had to leave home because the situation was really painful.

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[SoMadSoSad]

Tell us more about your relationship. Let it all out

[thisagain]

Welcome, Mononino!

That must be so painful and scary for you, especially since you have a child together. How old is your son? Did you and his mother live together before all this came out?

I'm not sure if this was what you intended, but you posted on the section of the board that's for "Saving a Relationship That Is In Or Near Breakup." Are you hoping to convince her not to leave you for her ex-boyfriend?

We have another board on family law and custody that also might be helpful for you. Even if you're hoping that you and your child's mother will be able to stay together, it's important to be prepared to pursue the best arrangement for your son.

Hang in there! As much as it hurts, you can get through this.

[helpinghimorme]

I have recently left my uBPD for his cheating.  Just when our life was getting back to normal after the last time he cheated, without any rhyme or reason, he cheats again.  I can't put our daughters through his vicious cycles anymore. The drinking is back and the holes in the walls. 

I feel horrible that he is now "loving" someone else right now, but I can't continue to have the rug pulled out from underneath us.