ex moving out this week, gonna be rough.

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

I wasn't sure whether to post or not. I am pretty nervous or scared. Not entirely sure how I am going to react.

She wants to meet tonight to talk about what she wants and what I get to keep.
Up until now it has been easy because she just left but nothing changed all of her stuff is still there, clothes, everything.

I will not be around past tonight. I plan on letting her and her family move her out. But she will be in constant contact asking about stuff.

So when I was down I could convince myself she would be back, but no more after this week.
Thinking she would come back gave me strength and power. Helped me think about how I am in control for once. How this is going to be my choice.
I feel like I am losing that control.

I know this is for the best. Logic is all there and is telling me I am better off without her.
But my heart is telling me I will die without her.

I often pray for the lord to rip this heart from my chest.

Sorry, meant for this to be in detaching forum, but I cannot report my own post.

[Hisaccount]

I wasn't sure whether to post or not. I am pretty nervous or scared. Not entirely sure how I am going to react.

She wants to meet tonight to talk about what she wants and what I get to keep.
Up until now it has been easy because she just left but nothing changed all of her stuff is still there, clothes, everything.

I will not be around past tonight. I plan on letting her and her family move her out. But she will be in constant contact asking about stuff.

So when I was down I could convince myself she would be back, but no more after this week.
Thinking she would come back gave me strength and power. Helped me think about how I am in control for once. How this is going to be my choice.
I feel like I am losing that control.

I know this is for the best. Logic is all there and is telling me I am better off without her.
But my heart is telling me I will die without her.

I often pray for the lord to rip this heart from my chest.

Sorry, meant for this to be in detaching forum, but I cannot report my own post.

[ynwa]

Hello, you seem to have a handle on what you need to do, despite feeling emotional.  If you need to have contact with her, perhaps have someone there when you do or be with you while she is moving?

[michel71]

My stbex is moving out tomorrow. I know exactly how you feel as I am going through the same exact emotions. I am out of town so I don't have to see her carry her stuff out. I come home the day after she moves out so I will come home to a house that no longer is filled with her, only memories. The clothes in her closet will be gone. Her hair products gone. Her dresser empty. Her toothbrush gone. The smell of her perfume will likely linger behind.
I can't believe all this is really happening.
Just writing about it makes my heart bleed.
I don't know what to tell you as I am in the same boat.
I guess it is getting through this one day at a time. Maybe having something to look forward to and the support from friends and a good therapist is the key.
And coming on this website is vital.
Good luck to you my friend. I am sorry you and I are going through this.

[Lucky Jim]

Hey Hisaccount, Sorry to hear what you and michel71 are going through.  Yes, it's likely to be rough sledding for a while.  One thing that might help is if you can view the creepy feelings as short term pain in exchange for long term happiness.  You really will come out the other side, as I have.

LJ