Hello and welcome Seeking Shalom... .you're not alone in your struggles.
How do we stay connected enough so not to lose her in the midst of our frustration with her and concern for her health and try to get her the help she needs so she moves forward in a meaningful way?
Great question... .and the answer is you cannot change or fix her from my experience. They have to be willing to accept help... .and it needs to be professional help. What you can do, is change your way that you react/communicate when things get dysregulated in her world or even before they become that way. To the right side of the page here, you will find some tools and lessons to help give you a guide in that process. Is she willing to get some therapy? Are you seeking some professional counseling yourself? Taking care of YOU is a big part in this process!
Also, I've learned that the more you share here the more you get in return.
We look forward to hearing more.