After the Solo Session

[Leonis]

As part of the attempt to become better co-parents with my ex when the child comes in March, I completed an one-on-one session with our counselor.

I gave her a brief history of my ex and I and shared my concerns about co-parenting with my ex. Later, I dove into more details about our interactions in the past when we were together, broken up, and during the pregnancy.

It felt good to be able to tell the story to a third party. I felt as if a weight as lifted off my shoulder.

The counselor was surprised that I was the one who initiated and pushed for counseling. I must admit, she was very professional to not draw conclusions about whether or not my ex had issues.

The counselor did try to teach me more about validation, something I picked up on while browsing this site. Maybe she knows? I thanked her and told her that it's helpful if I were to try to keep the relationship going, but I'd rather keep minimal contact with my ex because I'm tired of being the only person trying to accommodate to another person's needs.

Intriguingly, she asked me if I would give the relationship another shot. I told her that I am willing , for one more time, if my ex is also willing to put in the work into herself.

Needless to say, the counselor agreed that I should take legal precautions and have the child tested for paternity since my ex isn't too fond of doing amniocentesis right now (who isn't afraid of needles?)

All I know is that it would make my ex the most horrible person ever if the child turns out to be not mine.