My BPD is causing me to ruin my relationship

[Lizziex3390]

I need help, and feel I have nowhere left to turn.

I'm constantly trying to avoid being dumped, to the point where I ruin things when everything is fine. He has told me he feels like he has no privacy (I go through everything because I'm so paranoid) and I stress him out, he doesn't feel as comfortable as he once did. He says the girl I love is still there, but I don't feel like I am myself, I'm just a 2.0 version of you.

It's so hard I'm trying so hard to avoid all of this that I am just making everything worse, and none of that is my intention. I need to get a handle on myself, or I'll loose him. I can't even bare the thought of it. Please help me understand how he feels and what I can do to make him comfortable again.

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[Naughty Nibbler]

Hey Lizziex3390:   

Congratulations on taking the first step to healing.  It takes a great deal of courage to seek help!

This site is for family members and relationship partners of BPD sufferers. This is where we learn to support our loved ones, and where we learn to take care of ourselves. Because of this, we do not have the resources to help individuals with BPD, but I encourage you to check out
Resources for BPD Sufferers.
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/Themes/default/welcome3.html

DBT SELF-HELP
www.dbtselfhelp.com/

You will find links to more appropriate forums, where you will find others like yourself who were brave enough to have taken positive steps towards healing.

I wish you all the best in your healing process.