How to live with a spouse that has BPD

[Forevergood]

Hi all this is my fist post here.

I’m married for over 20 years to a BPD wife , relationship is a rollercoaster. Ups and downs and back up and down again and so on.  They let to living with a pwBPD is get to know the disease same like any other  disease, once you realize that it’s a disease it’ll be much easier to stay afloat. Every pwBPD has good qualities and good moments. So when you have that good Moment enjoy it to the fullest. And know that it won’t last for too long. And if you had a very good time you’ll pay a just price   Understanding that the pwBPD is in a state of mind where he/she can’t get out of. Fear of abandonment is very difficult and depressing, so think about it as an other sickness.  If your partner will get sick will you abandon them ? Of course not. It’s in our vows, so why split when they suffer on BPD. Now the best way to handle pwBPD. Is don’t take thier cursing personal. Even they’ll say all bad words and how you don’t care and don’t love them. You need to know deep down in our mind that they’re saying just the opposite. How of a good liver you are and how they like being around you.  Also never tell a pwBPD that they have BPD. They’ll deny it.  I have much more to write Wolfe it’s my very first post I’ll wait for feedback thank you

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[Jabiru]

Hi and welcome

Thanks for sharing your experience and tips. Do you have anything you're working on in your relationship? Finding this forum helped me a lot in mine.