Background: we have never gotten along super well. She is older than me, and we were not very close growing up just due to always being in different life circumstances at different times. She has several children, and the past few years have been horrific for my husband and I in that regard. We had many miscarriages. While I was having these miscarriages, she was pregnant with her fourth child. The way I found out was extremely hurtful. I shared this with her, and she blocked my phone number. She claimed that my situation was too stressful for her during her pregnancy. My phone number remained blocked for over a year. My husband and I finally got good news and learned we would be having a live birth, finally. Ay some point she unblocked my number during this. She did come to the baby shower, but afterward, refused to join our family for any holidays because of all the "hurt". She claims that her pregnancy was not celebrated enough because of what I was going through, and is demanding an apology. This has now continued for months. She will not speak to me, acknowledge my child, attend any family events, etc., until I apologize to her.
My question: how was I supposed to acknowledge her pregnancy when my phone number was blocked? It was communicated to me that my miscarriages were to stressful for her to interact with me. But now she is mad at me that I did not interact with her?
There is a blowup like this every few years or so. This one has just lasted the longest. I feel so bad for my parents.
