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[Nammy]

Hello, I believe my wife has BPD and I feel like we are in a downward spiral.    The worst part of it is that we have a three year old and another child on the way.   I myself have tried going to therapy for 2.5 years but ultimately so much can be done with one sided therapy.  I've asked my wife to come to join therapy but there is always some sort of excuse or she find a way to blame me as to why we aren't in therapy. 

Really feel like I'm stuck.   The last thing I want to do is see my marriage fail, but at the same time the toxic nature of the relationship between my wife and me is clearly starting to be felt by our three year old... .which breaks my heart.

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[stayingsteady]

Hi Nammy!

Welcome to the family.  I'm really glad you found us.  Many of us here have dealt with situations similar to yours and understand the pain and struggle that accompany them. 

Trying your hardest to keep everything going and still feeling like you can never do enough to save your family can definitely be discouraging.  It's a pain many of us have felt.  Outside of therapy, what else are you doing to manage through?