Is it me?

[Belizabeth]

So I met my ex BPD 2 years ago when I met her she was engaged to a woman and living with her... .she met me and quickly left her girlfriend a week later moved out of her apartment I was extremely suspicious of this and we broke up off and on for a few months in which case she would find someone very quickly (guy or girl) a day or so later. We ended up getting back together she moved in and we stayed together for a year the relationship was crazy, constant ups and downs I always told her I felt she was incapable of being alone in which case she denied and said I just didn't understand her. She was extremely pushy about me putting a ring on her finger and marriage claiming I was her soulmate. After a year I couldn't ignore my intuition anymore and broke up w her... .2 weeks later she was engaged to an ex from 4 years ago (they dated for 7 months back then) it's been 6 months since we broke up I heard she moved about an hour away to live w this guy and they are happily engaged. Although I have been healing and doing my own inner work sometimes I can't help but wonder if I'm the problem? If I would have stayed would we be engaged right now? She looks genuinely happy and I start to wonder if I'm the one who created the problems. Is this a common feeling? Just not sure how to feel... .she really does seem happy and 2 weeks later doesn't even give a person time to heal. I'm not sure how she can move on so quickly just needing some support.

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[DearHusband]

My pwBPD is a master at projecting a positive image to the outside world. Just because she looks genuinely happy doesn't mean she is.