Like P&C said... .you have people putting you in a difficult situation, and you are handling it pretty much as well as you can.
That doesn't mean it is easy.
my bf accusing me of not being on the same page as him, because he ALWAYS wants to be with me.
This is an interesting statement. I could take it in two ways.
1: Part of a dysregulated rant... .remove yourself from the rant, and don't worry about it any more than the other crap he throws at you... .
Things said while dysregulated are on my list of things I will never bring up!
2: Said in a serious discussion that isn't blaming you for everything, and is trying to improve things with you... .in that case, you might just sadly agree--he's correct. You don't always want to be with him. You do want him in your life, but not all the time.
And ask him to please be as considerate and generous as he can of your desire to spent time away with him, both with other people and alone... .because it is real, and it is part of who you are.
And be willing to listen to what he wants, how he feels, and also to try and work ways to compromise, or ways you can accommodate each other better. Perhaps simply better ways to ask about being alone, or make plans or share schedules, or whatever.
... .but this WAS part of a dysregulated rant. So just enforce boundaries of not listening to much more of the rant... .and think about how you might discuss it with him if he decided the issue was important enough to raise without attacking you.