That is awesome news NewLifeNow,
It's great to see someone be able to recover and manage their symptoms. I hope you really are proud and give yourself credit for that. I read that the ones with highest IQs have more of a chance of beating it so you must be smart haha
Thank you! I do take great pride in the strides I have made. It wasnt an easy road and it is still an every day challenge. Something I know I will have to be mindful of each and every single day for the rest of my life. But you know what? After seeing how GOOD it feels compared to how I was before... .it's a challenge I love tackling.
Appreciate the compliment! Very nice of you to say. Thank you
Yeah it's strange how you think that way about her though, I think some people can't be helped unfortunately. A lot of us think we are okay. I've lived with OCD for years to severe levels and when people drag me away from a door I'm convinced isn't locked after crying there for 4 hours I still think I'm fine. The mind is a curious thing and if you let it get you the road becomes harder and harder to escape.
Yes, I do think of my ex in the way that I do, however, I fully agree with you that so often people think theyre okay when in reality... well... they're just not. What I learned was someone with BPD doesnt get help because of that EXACT reason. I, for years, would reject everyones ideas that I in any way needed help. It wasnt until I hit rock bottom with nowhere to go that I came to the realization of "oh crap... .I DO need help." -- And then I went and found it. Until that moment there was nothing anyone could say or do to make me realize it. As a matter of fact, the more it was said to me the more I rejected it and embraced my symptoms (symptoms I didnt realize were actually symptoms at the time)
My ex is a really extreme case of BPD but I've heard she's having therapy and even if she hates me or thinks I'm evil I'm still so so so proud of her. To see that girl in the psychiatric ward 8 weeks ago shaking against the wall, crying, fighting anyone but me is quite amazing. I wish she knew that but what can you do.
I think some symptoms of BPD and some cases are just impossible though, unfortunately I'm not sure she can do it but I hope she does for her little boy. He didn't deserve abuse
Unfortunately therapy is not the sole answer. It takes personal will and desire COMBINED with therapy to actually start on the path to recovery. Extreme case or not, high functioning or low functioning... .I dont think it makes a difference in the success rate, I think the persons desire to seek help and STAY healthy once theyve accepted their disorder and continued on the path to recovery/reached recovery is what makes all the difference.
You wont get and stay better if you dont WANT to.
Have you ever shared your story? It would be a good read I imagine
I've been very active in my local community when it comes to mental health/bullying/suicide prevention/etc. -- I have shared my story, yes. Somewhat, that is. Primarily because part of the trauma I experienced that helped my BPD manifest was the bullying that I went through at such a young age. As we all have read on many of the posts here on these boards, there is always trauma(s) that lead to the manifestation of BPD/NPD -- I think a lot of times it's believed that the realization of the trauma is what causes the BPD/NPD symptoms. I can say with me it was actually the opposite... .it was the fact that I suppressed all of my trauma and feelings surrounding it that caused me to develop my disorder. It wasnt until I acknowledged all of the pain, sorrow, and anger surrounding that trauma that I finally started to see progress in myself.
A volcano may simmer forever and never physically erupt... that doesnt mean it's not harmful to self or surroundings... . Accepting the volcano erupting may actually be a good thing is important
